Funeral

[jenk1]

went to a funeral today, she was my uncles wifes mum.

A really sweet and lovely lady who always had time for us as children and our children as well.

BUT,

DS refused to get out of the car after having a meltdown when he saw the car with the coffin, UGH UGH Whats that.........
Despite us talking through and through it with him over the last few days, we had no childminder and DH needed to drive as there was not enough cars to fit everyone else in so that wasnt so bad but then theres my niece.

now i suspect ASD in my niece and have done for a while, she,s 8 and loudly told everyone that "they burn the body you know" and when the prayer was being said was praying with her hands clasped and telling me off for not doing it and staring at everyone who was upset and then when it was all over and we were leaving the chapel of rest decided to put on a great loud wailing show.

Its a good job that my aunty and uncle and my cousins are aware of our kids and how they act but some other people there looked horrified and my sister couldnt cope especially when at the wake after my niece decided to become a cat when someone asked her to pick up something she had dropped, my sister couldnt get out of there fast enough.

I have tried talking to her about my niece but she just laughs.

Hmm she does sound a bit spectrummy (especially the cat bit). Difficult if your sister is in denial.

To me she also seems to be somewhere on the autistic spectrum. Difficult though when the majority of adults around(except you) cannot or will not accept that this child has a problem.

Do you know how your niece gets on at school?. Can imagine that school is difficult for her as well.

school is difficult for her, when i went to her parents evening i was shocked to see that she sits on her own a little way from the children and the teacher says this is cos she "chatters a lot" i again told my niece but she didnt think anything of it, 2 months ago i got a phonecall asking to pick her up from school as she had been sick(im the emergency contact) and when she came home she told me that she hated school and had been sat in the headmasters office crying and telling him this.

My niece and mum have put it down to her wanting to be at home just like my DS and nothing else.

There,s not much else i can do really is there?

sorry that should say i again told my sister.

duh, i dont know why i keep referring to my sister as my niece.