I think my niece is ASD.

[jenk1]

Well in fact im pretty sure she is.

She,s 8, doesnt really have any friends although she tries desperately to make them, has a problem with her speech that has never been addressed, gets conversations muddled up, blurts out inappropriate things, has always had obsessions over socks, clothes etc.

My sister asked me to look after her tonight, turns out she had been "naughty" and my sister and her other daughter were going out for tea but cos of my neice,s naughtiness she couldnt go.

So i gently asked her why she shows so much anger to her mum and i had to back track right down to the fact that her mum told her to get in the bath and that her mum and her used to chat about when she would have a bath and she used to always know beforehand but now my sister doesnt do that (my BIL left my sister 3 months ago with 2 kids and moved back in with his mum )

She told me that she likes to know when she,s going to do things.

I have spoken to my mum about this before and she virtually tells me to shut up.

But she just reminds me of myself when i was that age and i dont know what i can do, i cant talk to her mum or mine cos they wont have it.

meant to say that because BIL has left my sister that she is quite stressed out at the moment and i was trying to explain to my niece that things have changed, but that her mum is not doing it on purpose.

Oh dear Jenk, sounds like you are right and you would know. Maybe try to give her some support when you get the chance and think about talking to your sister again sometime. I would forget about speaking to your mother about it, she clearly doesn't want to know and has no real day-to-day interest in it being recognised, unlike your sister. How do you and your sis get on? How was your relationship at the same ages as the two neices? Can you relate the situation to your own childhood together? Good luck!

i do get on with my sister very well.
But i think she has too much on her plate to even contemplate T having ASD.

I spoke to her tonight and told her that i had a chat with T and that she was upset because she didnt have advance notice of having a bath and she said "She,s always like that, if i spring something on her she goes ballistic, but if i warn her in advance she is ok"

Thats just confirmed it even more for me.