Evening all 
. I'm not a regular in here but I think I need your expertise if I may.
Ds who is 7, year 3 primary has been having some problems at school since starting juniors. He is on the special needs register under "SEN support", has one to one for literacy and maths and two hours twice a week he gets taken out of the classroom in a small group of children for extra support. He is slightly behind in most subjects but I'm not generally too concerned as he's a bright enough lad and I refuse to stress out over this!
He's not got any formal diagnosis but he has a stammer and is emotionally immature/has difficulty controlling his emotions. So far his teachers have been able to manage this. His main problems appear to be stroppy behaviour when things don't go his way, then crying and wailing uncontrollably and refusing to complete the work. This isn't every day. He is fine a lot of the time.
Things have escalated in year 3 where before they could manage it but now his new teacher can't. I've had a meeting with her today and she explained that he will have a strop over something minor, then he starts crying and wailing and nobody can talk him down, so he wails and wails whilst she's trying to teach 25 other children. She then calls several different members of staff in to ask him to leave the classroom (to calm down) but he refuses to leave to every one.
Teacher says she has tried everything but mentioned today about "positive handling" where they are escorted from the classroom by a trained member of staff using force I assume. Says she needs my permission for this. Now my first thought was that he will kick off, end up hitting a teacher and getting excluded or something. I think it will exacerbate the situation. However I am at a loss as to what else to suggest.
I have had a look at the school's positive handling policy and it says they will only use this when (and I quote)
• The health and safety of the child in question.
• Against injury of other children and adults.
• Against serious damage to property.
Well from what I can gather he doesn't fall under any of these categories. It's just wailing and crying that goes in forever. The odd time he does this at home I just send him to his room, where he wails until he's got it out of his system and then comes down when he feels better. She says she can't just ignore him because she has other children to teach but she can't (obviously) ask the other kids to leave the classroom.
I've asked her today if she can ask the SENCO person to observe his behaviour in the classroom, I've also asked her to let me know if there is anybody in the school that can help him manage his emotions (coping mechanisms etc). She has suggested we maybe take him to the GP for a chat just to see whether anything else is going on but we were going to do this anyway.
I've asked after school club what his behaviour is like (absolutely fine) and his behaviour at home is mostly fine ( normal gobby 7 year old aside). We don't have any major problems. So it's just in the classroom.
Anybody any thoughts, wise words? Think if anything else I can suggest to the school?
My dh is dead against the agreeing to the positive handling and I'm inclined to agree. I think it will just make the situation worse. I did wonder whether to suggest that if they have a problem in future with him refusing to leave the classroom that they ring me and I come and fetch him out or dh as we'd be able to get there within fifteen minutes or so but not sure the school would go for this.