Has anyone got any experience of hemiplegia and behaviour problems?
My little boy is nearly 5 and has right side hemiplegia caused by a bleed on the brain when he was born at 25 weeks. He is of course having physio and is so so capable compared to what we might have expected. He walks independently and is very bright and has a lovely imagination.
However, he is seeming less and less 'neurotypical' every day. From a very early age he has compulsively hurt us, biting, hair pulling etc. he does this less to me and my husband now but his little brother still gets a lot of it. He can verbalise all the 'hurting makes people sad' etc but it's almost like he can't help himself, especially when he's stressed.
He gets stressed out by smells, sounds, leaving the house and any change of routine. You can feel when he's stressed - the atmosphere is so tense.
He shouts, all the time, usually nonsense words and sounds. Like you'll say 'Sorry, we haven't got any Weetabix today' and he'll shout gibberish for minutes at a time until you can get a word in edge ways. And he does it ALL DAY to literally half the things you say to him. Sometimes his first word in the morning is BLARGGH at top volume.
He has major meltdowns. When he was 2 he could have the same tantrum for 2 hours at a time, a few times a week. Now he is better, but it's at about the same level as my 2 year old.
We've do timeouts every time he hurts. We try to talk calmly to him. We've tried reward charts. Nothing has had an effect. It gets better and worse in waves but it doesn't seem to be because of anything we've done.
We had accepted this as how he is, but this term he has really started acting up at school. He has a few behaviours that are upsetting people. There's the purposeful hurting, of course, then there's the shouting and the involuntary movements. He will roll his head around or fling his arms and legs about.
Now that school have mentioned it it's like the wool has been pulled from my eyes. I see him in the playground. We have had a calm morning, no music on at home, me talking in almost a whisper all morning, distracting him etc etc, then he plays one chase game with a friend and he suddenly starts flinging his head and limbs about and shouting. He stands right in people's faces and shouts or waves his head, and this is him trying to play, not even trying to hurt.
I feel so sad. I'm constantly on the verge of tears and just feeling so down about it. I'd thought we were doing a good job, but it's all gone wrong at school and I don't know what I can do to change it. I feel so powerless. We have asked for an OT referral, and will talk to his consultant, but I still feel so sad and worried and scared.
I keep remembering my beautiful little baby and feeling so guilty that it's all gone so wrong.
Does anyone have any similar experiences or advice?