What exc uses do schools use for your child's "behaviours"?????

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Funny, how many teachers claim how wonderfully "trained" they are in teaching autistic children (cause they took a 3 week course or similar) yet when things go wrong, its always the child's fault.

My son has been described as hyperactive, wilful, does things "purposefully", (translate - on purpose), etc etc.

I am quite sure they blame me for his recent behaviours that he showed at school, when really its down to the school's lack of knowledge about how to keep behaviours from happening in the first place. They dont know the first thing about functional analysis, the ABC charts, or how to modify a curriculum to suit my child's special needs, and I dont think they really wanted to either. Too much work. My suggestions always fell on deaf ears.

Yet, for being so highly qualified, how come so many kids get excluded from school, even very young kids??? Dont they see that behaviours emanate from putting pressures on our kids that they simply can't handle, or allowing behaviours to happen, without seeing or wanting to scrutinise the causes??

One teacher wanted to place my child in a "tent" for time out time. I told her that she would be reinforcing "bad" behaviour by putting him in a tent, cause he LOVES tents. She wouldnt listen. She soon found out though that it didnt work. Do they not get positive reinforcement and negative reinforcement?? I mean what do they actually learn about human/child behaviour in teacher college??

Yesterday, Sam shredded his only pair of shoes- unpicked every stitch from both, removing soles from uppers. teachers described it as an 'accident'- DS admitted it started as apick but became compulsive.

They know zilch about Sn kids at our school, they seem to have grasped that DS3 will need help (him being oblivious to the world bar me, Dh and the boys) but as long as a child is high functioning- well the problems won't likely display until they're 8 or 9, and they only do Infants.

I think even the teachers themselves would like more SN training but it seems to be hard to get.

I would've thought the first and probably the most important thing for a teacher to learn wrt SN is "Listen to the parents". Sadly not all of them do.

Oh we had the same problem with reinforcement at mainstream school. They just could not take on board that shouting at ds1 for pinching was going to make the problem a gazillion times worse because he loves people shouting, almost as much as he loves the word no (and having people shout no was like some sort of heaven for him). Luckily the ones doing the reinforcing were adults, so he only pinched adults whilst he was there (and the ones who really didn't listen got pinched a lot!)

Since going to special school- guess what we have a child who is pretty well behaved, because they understand completely about reinforcement and deal with any behaviours that arise appropriately.

My friend is in her second year of training to be a primary school teacher and I've been waiting with interest to see what her 'special needs' training will consist of. When I find out, I'll let you know .