I've posted about Dd before, many of you will recognise/remember. Briefly, Dd is 12 in year 8 and has a dx of Asd. We're still not much further forward with school - Dd doesn't like it, never has. She has no statement/EHCP. We have a meeting with school tomorrow and a fantastic Asd worker is going to be there also to help/advise. I need to do my upmost now to help dd, I feel like I've not been proactive enough for too long now. Things have to change now for her. School are very good but don't know what to do for her as she masks completely.
Dd missed 1 day last week due to anxiety/upset/tears. But she doesn't like any day/time at all at school. I feel every day like I'm sending a lamb to the slaughter house 
I've talked to dd tonight to try to get some ideas. I went through the Aldo Goes to Primary book someone posted on here to see if dd could identify with any of it. She's said (in far few words than this) that as soon as she wakes up she feels sad/upset about going to school. While driving there she feels the same, when walking through the cut with me she still feels this way, when walking down her school path she still feels this way. All through the school day the feeling doesn't change. She feels better when she comes out of school but then the feelings come back at bedtime because she knows it's the same again the next day.
Realistically, what can school do? How do I work out what dd needs? In my heart I just think school is never ever going to work for her. She's very academic but just so unhappy and stressed/angry all the time.