Hi, I'm hoping some of you wonderful people can give me some advice please.
I have posted on here a while ago about my DD (and also about DS1) she is 9 and in Y5, to give a bit of background she has suffered from terrible anxiety and other issues for as long as I can remember and was assessed by the CDC when she was in nursery and was eventually diagnosed once in school with Anxiety but with autistic traits. The report stated she did show some signs but not enough for diagnosis at this time, however should there be more concerns or her anxieties get worse for her to be reassessed.
Fast forward a couple of years and the anxiety was getting much worse as school was getting harder and she was struggling socially (what was accepted in infants suddenly wasn't in juniors and she spends most play times with dinner lady or teacher) but school don't see much of a problem as she masks at school then it all comes out at home. She will stomp about, slamming doors, shouting etc until she breaks down in tears and whatever has happened that day comes out. The only time school really see any issues is when it's something new as DD can't handle change or new things so school trips, transition to the new class each year, supply teachers covering her class, all these are met with major upset and worry. She won't want to go to school, she will cling to me and not want to be left etc.
She also has a lot of sensory issues, she will only take packed lunch as that doesn't have to be eaten in the dinner hall which is too noisy and busy for her, she struggles with anywhere that is busy and has never coped with noise, she is terrified of fireworks, thunder but also won't use hand dryers, a hair dryer etc.
She is also very literal, she doesn't understand jokes or sarcasm and takes everything you say as fact, this also causes issues at school as what is petty squabbles to most girls her age are a massive issue for DD and she has come home distraught many times about something that has been said or has happened with another girl.
I spoke to the doctor who referred me to the school nurse, they suggested a referral to CAMHS. This was a very long process but eventually over the summer they did an ADOS assessment on DD as they felt there was sufficient signs for possible ASD. We have now had the feedback in which we were told she scored complete Zero's across the whole assessment, which they pointed out was very unusual but it means it definitely isn't ASD. However she then went on to explain that she made good eye contact, she held good 2 way conversations, she could read facial expressions and retell a story?? I already knew she could do all those things and I thought the assessment would have been more in depth than that as I had already read about girls being much harder to diagnose!
So my question is do I push this further as I don't feel the assessment she had was right for her or do we just carry on as we are as there doesn't seem to be any other help out there for Anxiety?