Just got back from assessment, they have given dd a diagnosis of asd and given us lots of information about aspergers although apparently it's not aspergers anymore just asd. DD seems fine with it, we will obviously discuss it more but I think she is happy to have an explanation of why she finds things hard. The psychologist said the way we handle her meltdowns and boundary setting (ie we don;t at the time but go back to it later) is right and that it sounds like we do everything well for dd. I need to talk to school tomorrow, she has just started secondary and is getting a bit confused with all the homework and timetables. They said she masks it incredibly well which is why noone it has taken so long to get her seen.
I don't know what I think right now, I am not sure what I wanted the outcome to be but I feel I need to be a lot more understanding of dd's needs and ignore the judgy people. I have told her it is her information to share only as she wants and that she has no obligation to tell anyone if she doesn't want to but it is also part if her and nothing to be embarrassed about.
I think I need to sit down with a glass of wine and process this information and what it means for dd. I have no idea what to say to the senco at school, I haven't spoken to her before as I didn't see the point until after the assessment. They said the report will have recommendations such as dd should be allowed things to fiddle with in class, a quiet place to focus that kind of thing.