So why do they think he will only get worse? From what I know ( only what my slt has told me). It becomes disordered language around seven. Before then it's more a delay. I could be way off. But it seems to young to be so bleak.
Did they do any formal assessments? Celf?
I know some will disagree but going private was the one thing I should have sooner. The nhs is so underfunded it's bordering useless in this area.
Find a good salt ( www.helpwithtalking.com/Default.aspx )
Ask if your private slt will assess ( beware some tests can't be repeated so check if the nhs one did) this need not be expensive as they charge about £60 a hour so mine cost me £150 and £120 for reass ment a year later.
When I did this my sons six month delay on the nhs was three year delay. He was five.
Ask what the slt recommends and ask for some print outs. Then you can do things yourself.
My son has a receptive and expressive disorder but I don't believe he has to keep falling further behind. It will never go away ( as it's a disorder not a delay) but he can learn to work around it.
EHCP - you'd need a EP to assess him. Ask your nursery to call in their improvement office ( all nurseries have one it's how they prove they can implement the EYS for funding). They can find out how to get a EP in.
Getting a EHCP for speech alone might not be easy, but it's possible. However he shouldn't need one to get help.
In reality it's not that simple as I couldn't get help with a statement. Getting that was and still is very painful. It could be worth applying as that should fire up the LA to assess. But I'm not sure I would do my appeals again.
Sorry rambling, it's late. But lots you do.
Get a second indi opinion.
Go private ( don't tell nhs and stay on nhs books! Never discharge yourself)
Ask to get improvement officer in to assess or call in EP to assess
If your feeling nothing else is working apply for EHCP assessment as it does fire people up
Be careful where you invest your time - ie where do you draw the line with chasing a ehcp
Appealing sounds easy on here - it isn't. Yes people do win. It's still very hard.