2 month old avoiding eye contact, doesn't smile at me

[discocharlotte]

has anyone had a similar experience?
the nurse has pointed out over the last few visits that my 2 month old does not make eye contact and does not follow a slowly moving toy with his eyes.
this is true. Sometimes he does make eye contact with me when we are at home, but often he actively avoids meeting my eyes. And he does not follow moving objects, such as the animals in the mobile.
also, he does not smile at me, although he smiles when his eyes are closed.
he was born a bit early, 37w+3, but has not had any "problems", i.e. feeding, weight gain, colic, etc. except for a mild case of infant jaundice.
i haven't gotten any answers or advice from the nurse, only had this pointed out and i don't know if this is normal. Or should i be "doing" something, and if so, what? And could this be a sign of some problem?
any comments, suggestions, are helpful.

One idea is to keep a diary of the thing you notice he is doing and where your concerns are. Health visitors vary in how helpful they are.
It does seem very early to jump to conclusions though I understand this is a natural. My son is 3 and half with ASD and I worried continually. Friends of mine did too about the little things their children were or weren't doing and their children have developed with no difficulties at all.

Hi Charlotte,
I have been wondering if I should share my story with you or not, because I really DON'T want to worry you unnecessarily. But, I prefer to tell you what happened in my case so that you can decide what to do.
I had a similar experience with DS. All the books I read said that little babies should be very interested in other faces, etc,etc, DS wasn't. All he would do is look around the room, but not to my face.
At about 2 months of age I told the HV, she told me not be paranoid, "he is only a little baby".
I didn't worry at the time. After many months of seeing that he was less active that other babies, wasn't interested in toys,wasn't developing at the same rate as other babies, etc,etc, I really started to worry.
In the end, he did have a neurological problem (a brain atrophy), he has improved tremendously with therapy.

Do you have friends with other babies the same age? Is he active? There may not be a problem at all. Just keep an eye on his development. Give him as much stimulation as possible.

my dd did not make eye contact with anyone from birth
I was the ONLY person who could see this - she was not deaf so when you spoke, she turned her head & smiled, cooed etc
BUT if you smiled at her without speaking or waved infront of her eyes, she did not focus.

noone believed me....i caught people waving in front of her eyes when I was out the room but I could tell they didnt believe me

we had a 8 week check or was it 3 months - something like that & I had mentioned it to the HV....the dr shined a light near her eyes while rest of room was dark.....DD did not turn her head

BUT we were referred & by the time we were seen (6mths) she was fine - Delayed vision maturation

all is ok now

please check this out as might be a possibility

Hi, I just wanted to write on one of these posts. As 3 years ago, I was in similar situation. I had a baby who would not look me in the eyes when breast feeding, would very rarely smile, and would avoid eye contact. I went extra mile to make a connection with him, would hold him all the time, go for walks, and put extra effort to be affectionate. I was worried sick (going on google and reading all the forum posts didn't help!). I just want to say that today he is a young little boy, who I am not concerned at all. He has little frends, loves to play, is very affectionate, has his opinions, doesn't want to shout up, and is absolute joy to be around! I know its hard not to worry, but hopefully you will find bit of hope in this post!