How do you persuade a 10yr old to go to school?

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DD (ASD) refused to go to school again today. I tried to persuade/coax/bribe/force/reason with her, but it all went wrong and she went into a violent meltdown.

How am I supposed to get her into school when she's like this?

I stopped forcimg Dd3 to go to school at the beginning of yr 6 when school was horendous for her!

If she was able to get up and go without getting stressed and upset she went! If not she didnt!

We carried on like that with her needs not being met until nearly the end of yr 7 when she stopped going altogether and we decided enough was enough and she hasnt gone back for yr8.

I wanted to protect her mental health more than I wanted to send her to a school where she was desperately unhappy!

We are all different though you know your Dd best, so good luck whatever you do

It's a new school for her (she was at a private school which didn't really have a clue how to engage her) so we were expecting some bumps. The new school seems to be very clued up about how to handle dd, so I'm fairly confident we've done the right thing in moving her.

This morning she was "too tired" and "schools boring". I managed to get her in at midday after she'd calmed down and she went in happy as anything.

I lost the whole days work which didn't go down very well either.

I feel like such a failure, - as a parent And as an employee.

If the school are clued up, ask them to help! They might be able to come up with a plan. Sometimes giving children a special job to do in the morning can help them to get to school!

Removing Dd3 from class in the afternoons and giving her something fun to do worked for a while for her! Also ensuring that her needs were being met! If there were days when her needs were met she was much more likely to attend again the next day!

You are not a failure, many schools are failing children with Asd every single day.