eek what can I do to help?

[Twiglett]

friend of mine has just turned up in floods of tears .. she had an argument with her 2 teens last night and feels very woe-bedone .. she's a single mother .. from what I can gather they are just typical teens but they've finally turned into being ego-centric

anyway the reason I'm here is her 9 year old has GDD and autistic tendencies .. still has issues with toileting which majorly got her down in my loo when he called her in .. she just burst into tears

Now I've sent her off for a long walk .. and I've kept her DS here with me .. she'll be back in about 40 mins with her car

But I don't know how to help .. because she's just in a situation of despair .. and obviously constant demands of 9 year old and that she can't leave him is exacerbating the whole teens being hellish situation

I think you're already helping, just by listening to her and particularly by looking after her son for a while. How much outside help does she have with him?

sometimes just having a freind to listen helps a lot

I'm back .. I don't know if this is Sn or general tbh .. I don't think its the youngest one getting to her its everything else in her life and this is just the cherry on top

am thinking of trying to suggest a girlie day out .. maybe to a spa ... I'm sure we can arrange someone to have youngest .. another friend who has enough money has said she'll pay for her .. do you think that would be ok or do you think it would seem like taking over?

oh ffs .. how would you know eh?

I am sure she would love it.
I know when life gets me down a coffee with my mate who really understands really helps

she is very proud .. am concerned she will feel 'pitied' tbh

I am finding it difficult to find the 'space' to help atm .. which makes me feel terrible