I have some concerns about the development of my 4.5 year old DS. He starting school in September and I think its brought it up in my mind more.
He is a very sweet boy, polite and loving but he seems very behind to me when I compare him to others in his year group. He is loud in groups and does struggle to sit still and do as he is asked in some situations. He is never quiet - we are always reminding him to use his indoor voice.
He has struggled with his hearing and speech development but was signed off by the speech therapist in September last year. They had concerns about his understanding and there was a significant speech delay but felt last summer that he was where he should be.
My main concerns surround his seeming inability to either listen to what I've asked him to do or his lack of understanding of what he has been asked to do. I have taken to asking him to repeat back what I have said and more often than not he can not repeat it back.
In addition he seems to struggle to remember names - he will ask a child over and over what his/her name is and often then get it wrong later when playing with them.
He has also become very whingy and often replies to children or adults by screaming at them if something doesn't go his way. For example he was at a party and it was time for food, all the other children sat down, he refused and started screaming at me that he didn't want to and wanted to carry on playing. We have spoken to him about this and I'm a stuck record... please use your words.... maybe I'm expecting a change too quickly but it does seem to be taking time.
He also seems very angry sometimes when asked to do something he doesn't want to, I have been putting this down to testosterone surge but how long realistically does this last?
His pre school don't seem to have any real concerns, he is reading already and loves numbers/maths games but I am concerned that these issues will affect him when starting school and with is social interactions. THey also say that once he is happy with the routine he is happy but he is upset if the routine changes and can sometimes get upset about it, however I have not witnessed this at home myself.
Maybe as he is my PFB I'm just over reacting but would love some feedback from other mums of 4yr olds!