DS1 is three and being assessed for ASD (there's no doubt in my mind - it runs in both sides of my family and I suspect in DH's and I know what to look for). He's hard work. He seems to become worse after change in routine (though, he tends to cope with the actual change relatively well). For instance, he'll be going to preschool a couple of days a week after summer and the staff have been amazing about trying to get him used to it (and I've had meetings with the SENCO etc.) and DS loves the actual visits and is good as gold but once we get home and for the next day or two he's a nightmare.
DH had two weeks off holiday and went back to work this week. Well, by the end of yesterday DS1 was almost the worst he's ever been behaviour wise (throwing things constantly and as soon as I took something off him he'd just grab something else; hitting his little brother; hitting, pushing and even biting me; constant shouting and screaming; and just not acknowledging anything I said to him). Maybe it's not connected to his dad being off then going back to work but it would fit.
This morning has already started badly. He was up a lot in the night and has been very loud this morning (the constant noise is possibly the hardest thing to deal with) and has been violent towards DS2 (16 months) and I've already had to confiscate several toys.
It's bad timing because I've just changed my antidepressant to one that treats anxiety, too, and the change has my very tired and spaced right now.
How do I handle him?? He's currently running round with a gun he made from Duplo (I never realised how many guns were in kids' films until I had children!!), which is apparently shooting fire at Vikings!! That's fine because it keeps him from actually being destructive but it won't last long.