ds2 , has aspergers , is very high functioning and has just left school . whilst at school ds2 hated every minute and weve had the worst 5 years i could have ever imagined . The school didnt seem to think he needed additional help , just thought he was unmotivated . He was , but obviously there was much more going on . ds2 himself didnt want any help , didnt accept he needed any help and was furious if anyone said otherwise . He insisted he was just thick , the teacher couldnt teach and he couldnt be bothered because school was boring and he was lazy .
Anyway , whilst most were enrolling on college courses for september ds2 insisted that the only thing he was prepared to do ( and i think the only thing he had any confidence in ) was fishery management , as he has had a massive interest in fishing for the last 4 years . unfortunately , the nearest fishery , which hes been going to at weekends is 20 miles away . They offered him an apprenticeship there after we asked about it for him and then went back on it because they hadnt understood what setting up an apprenticeship would involve and decided it would be too much hassle . weve tried local fishing shops with no work available and the colleges that we can get to have nothing in that line .
so , hes in limbo now .
we didnt tell them at the fishery about his AS as we knew they wouldnt take him on if we did and that with it being his specialist subject and a place hes more than familiar with he would get on fine without anyone knowing , which he did when he did a couple of saturday shifts to help out . They were happy with him and he enjoyed it .
Hes adamant that he doesnt want to go to college to do any of the courses available , but he also doesnt want to do or feels he can do any other job . Everytime i try to approach the subject now he gets so stressed and almost has a meltdown . I think weve exhausted all fishing related jobs so i have no idea what he can do either .
He wouldnt want to tell an employer about his AS and i do think hes less likely to be taken on for a job if he does :( Im not sure myself if he really needs to disclose it as he is quite borderline really but his self confidence is so low that he wont make any calls or enquiries himself or jobs even if he found one he was happy about and its obvious somethings amiss if i do it ! Thats if i even get him to look at any job / apprenticeship listings !
sorry , this is all a bit of a jumble . but at the moment hes at home , bored and climbing the walls and we cant come up with a plan for the future . Im worried his behaviour and state of mind is going to go downhill again .
what would you do ?
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