karla5
Have come back to this thread and am very shocked at the rude and apathetic response you are getting from people in the education system who are supposed to be professionals and there TO HELP YOU.
I can see no excuse for some of the things that have been said to you.
If you feel you have done all you can to try to get this school to support your little boy properly (including meeting with the Head)and they still aren't listening, can I suggest the following.
Write to the Director of Education for the Local Education Authority. You can find out his/her name from the relevant LEA website.
Don't tell the school you are doing this, just go ahead and do it.
Outline all your grievances, including the highly inappropriate things that have been said to you. You do not have to name names; it will be quite obvious who is involved without you needing to do this.
I'm fairly sure that the LEA will have some sort of charter in place which means the Director must respond to you within a certain time.
You have said there are no alternative schools in the area, but if this is the case it does not mean you should have to put up with what is happening and going to the LEA may be the only way to resolve this.
The trouble with all this is it takes a lot of time and emotional effort. My sister and I recently spent 3 solid days working out what the hell had happened when her son changed school and suddenly stopped making any progress, fell badly behind etc etc. We got together the "ammo" needed for her to go in to the Head and make her realise that the school had to take some responsibility for what had been happening. She was really dreading it, but is very relieved as finally after 3 years, she feels she is being listened to.