i spoke too soon

[jenk1]

I was only saying the other day that it was looking good for DS to go back into school.
Not any more

Since yesterday he has shut himself away in our room and refused to have any contact with the rest of us, he is hardly eating and was crying his eyes out last night.

So today i phoned his Psych, he asked me what had happened on Monday.
I told him that the mentor had come to visit as arranged and that they had a chat about school and she got him to fill in his favourite subjects and asked him how he felt about returning to school.
He went ballistic, "she was only supposed to come and play bloody cards with him" he said, she has put him back months.

He said he is extremely worried about his mental health and that everything STOPS.
I said what do you mean and he said NO TUTORS,NO SCHOOL VISITS NOTHING.

He also told me that if anyone gives us any hassle to refer them to him.

So i have.

Im so upset, DS has gone right back to how he was months and months ago, my mum took him out yesterday and she said he was extremely anxious and timing her all the time and he,s not been like that for months and months.

I have spent this afternoon crying, crying over DS and DD as her behaviour is getting worse and i dont know how much more i can take.

I dont feel very strong at the moment.

Oh Jenk.

I don't know what to say.

It all seemed so positive for you all earlier in the week.

The Psychologist sounds really supportive.

Have you decided to follow his advice, and would your DS feel better knowing that the pressure to do anything was off him for a while?

Jenk

Who was the mentor working for? (Not ds obviously )

yes we are following his advice, and i have phoned the LEA to tell them.

Im just gutted.

Psych said it was always at the back of his mind that DS wouldnt be going back to this school as its not a brand new start, its still the same pupils and some of the old teachers but a new building so all the old negative feelings he has are still there.

i know CT, i cant believe it, as soon as she said to him about school i though DUH!!!!!

I thought we,d got away with it but as the psych says all this will have been playing on his mind since monday and he just cant cope with it.

The plan was to reintroduce him extremely slowly but we have to go back to the drawing board now.

They dont understand the complexity of AS and becuase DS comes across as a "normal" boy and he is very good at hiding his AS they say things like "well he,s very sociable, he gives good eye contact" etc etc.

Our psych has offered to go into DS,s school and give a talk free of charge to whoever wants to come along teachers,SENCO,parents and the school are saying "we,ll let him know" i mean how ungrateful can you get, he,s very well known and respected and does work for the NAS and Birmingham University,,,,what more do they want?

oh dear jenk. All I can say is that I (unfortunately) know someone with very similar problems, so even though you'll feel alone you're not. I know that's no help.