Dd is breaking my heart ........

[frazzledbutcalm]

Dd is crying in bed because of school. I can't go through this again. She stopped crying quite some months ago and I can't do it again. It's not fair on dd to feel this way. It's affecting me horrendously, it's got to be 1000 times worse for her
How do I make school better? I don't want her to like it, I would love her just to be able to get through her day and feel ok. Not happy but not sad/upset/stressed either. How do I do it?

I haven't looked mcfarts .. I don't even know where there are any. I'm very new to this and don't know where to look. I've googled my area and it's only showing up exclusively specialist schools. Senco at existing school did say there was a very good mainstream with asd unit near us, approx 12 miles away, the mainstream part is big so I think dd will feel similar to how she does now. But, I don't think she'd be able to go somewhere she doesn't know a single soul. She currently only has a small circle of 'friends' and doesn't communicate outside of that. Even if she sees her friends while we're out she only smiles at them, no chat, no wave etc.

I would go and look, my DD also does not cope with busy at all! however, she is supported in every lesson, she leaves lessons early to avoid the rush and has the SNs unit to go to at break and lunch, where they have clubs and organised activities for them to join in with if, they want to. This is a school with over a 1000 pupils, but because of what is put in place for her i honestly dont think she really notices. Her school also offers similar support for pupils who dont have a statement if the child needs. The choice for me to send her there a hard one, as she went knowing nobody! all peers from primary went to a different school. She has however done really well and for the first time ever, she has a friend! a boy with similar needs who shares a TA with her, they're inseparable

Ah that's great mcfarts ... well done your dd!