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An mrsUNFORGETFUL weekend

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MrsForgetful · 06/11/2006 09:26

this weekend has been a nightmare

yes i am after the sympathy vote this time...i openly admit....

My husband has been in hospital. He is home now.
He was just walking back to the car from playing golf, and he felt his left leg buckle under him- and he was unable to walk. He has (they think at the moment) ruptured his tendons (achilles???) just behind his knee on around his calf muscle.
so he has his leg in plaster,crutches...and i am having a sample of what some of you have to do 24/7....you don't realise how much you do depends on standing up...or sitting up upright....both he cannot do unaided as he has to have his leg raised when sitting- so is not really sat up....

so he's miserable too....and as i expected...the boys are not able to do the 'poor dad' routine...and i am having to 'barricade' him into a corner of the lounge- so that one of them doesn't touch his leg.

so fun and games here.

he has to go back next week...may need full leg cast....may need operation.

he had this week of to fit a new bathroom and he is gutted at the moment- very depressed as he has been told he will be unable to do much for about 7 weeks.

he cannot look ahead- he cannot see getting better...he is very irritable. and i am now having to do all the things that he would do around the house....and i will never think again that he does f all as now i am realising how much i need his help with the boys.

then to finish off the weekend.... our new gas heating broke down....which i then 'fixed'...the water pressure was wrong....and touch wood so far it appears to be ok..... (we know what my dabbling with DIY usually leads to!)

then the electric sockets in the kitchen where the washer,tumble and freezer are plugged into blew.... so now have them pulled out from under the worktop so they can be plugged in to other sockets....so given that we have a narrow 'galley' kitchen.....and a man on crutches....we now also have 3 appliances sticking out 2 ft into the walkway....leaving a tiny gap that he has to get sideways through.
(almost funny....???? almost LOL!)

Then...worst of all...ds3 got hit by a firework last night. he was NOT injured. his coat has a huge hole burnt out of it...and my coat got burnt as i ripped his off of him. he was hysterical /shocked for an hour or so...but today WANTED to take the jacket to school to 'show'.

so...as i forced ds3 out to see the bloody fireworks that he had kept on about ...my dh had planned to do them saturday- then ended up in hosptal...so we postponed...ofcourse ...in true asd manner....ds3 did not adapt well to this...so my BIL offered to light some of them....then ofcourse as soon as the first one went off...ds3 ran indoors to hide.
i then lost my temper...i'd had enough by then...and forced him outside...angrily saying things like "YOU wanted the fireworks...YOU ARE NOT going indors....your uncle has SPECIALLY come here to do this for YOU"....and i covered his ears...held him tight...and after a couple more he calmed down....BUT...then as we were watching one go up...a bit of it shot out at grass level...and came all 90ft of our garden...ds3 must have seen it first as he started pulling away...and i pulled him back thinking at that moment he was trying to run away again....which ofcourse he was....he had seen the firework coming... so it hit into his coat.....and he started screaming "HOT! HOT!"... i felt it on me...and raelsied what had happened...pulled his coat off....his football shirt underneath had been scrorched...but NOT a mark on his skin!!!

Then as the hysteria/shock took over he started shouting at me that it was MY fault- as i had kept holding him...didn't let him run away from it. which ofcourse was true...though obviously not intentional...but last night all i kept thinking was 2 ft higher and it would have been his face....and to think that he belives it was MY fault...which i know it wasn't....just sickens me.

but he is ok....it wsn't his face....and we have all learnt alot. ds1 particularily as he has been a bit too 'interested' in fire etc recently...and this incident frightened him .

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HumphreyComfreyCushion · 06/11/2006 09:32

Oh, MrsF - sending a huge wave of sympathy your way.

What an eventful weekend!

Are all the boys at school today ie: will you get a bit of time to yourself to recharge your batteries?

jenk1 · 06/11/2006 09:48

Oh im sorry Mrs F, you are having a bad time of it.

I dont know what else to say to make you feel better.
Sending you Big Hugs from me to you

Love Jen
xx

coppertop · 06/11/2006 10:36

MrsF

It's at times like this that I wished I lived just around the corner so I could help out.

caroline3 · 06/11/2006 10:38

Mrs F. really sorry to hear about your stressful w/end. The only good thing about it is that you now appreciate your lovely dh for all the things he does for you and the kids!!! I hope he gets better soon.

Fireworks are a nightmare!! I let some off in the garden yesterday evening and one misfired narrowly missing some of my friends' children. My ds was too scared to touch any sparklers and then his friend burnt his hand on one. I was a nervous wreck by the end of the it. It reminded me why I had not let any fireworks off for a few years, last time I did a firework burnt an expensive coat being worn by the father of one of my friends. To cap it all my fridge/freezer has stopped working which meant I had to chuck out all food (at least £100 worth). It looks like I will have to buy another one now which has come at just the right time for Christmas.....

MrsForgetful · 06/11/2006 11:22

thanks all!
(thinking of what CT will think!)

i've just put a bin liner/elastic band over his leg so he can get in the bath....he looks so fed up.he HATES anyone even going in there when he is in the bath...let alone me having to 'at least' wash his hair ....i'm sure he'll feel 'better' after a rest in there...as water takes the strain off joints etc...and he says he's starting to ache from both using crutches...and having to sit differently/lie on his back all night....

so i decided to be respectful (!) and leave him alone for 5 mins (with a bar of soap!) and i am going to wash his hair....

god he'd kill me if he knew i was posting this!!!

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coppertop · 06/11/2006 12:40

LOL MrsF!

I hope you're writing down all these ideas you have. I still think there's a market for a "MrsForgetful's Crafty Solutions For Every Problem" book.

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