ASD - Pronoun Reversal - Anyone conquered it?

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Our son is nearly four and has I /you etc completely opposite - presumably because he learnt echoically and not analytically (?).

We can't seem to rectify it with correction and it's starting to feel like we're teaching him a foreign language as he asks for an explanation when corrected.

Has anyone had any experience of resolving this?
Thanks

We did endless sharing out of smarties. (one for me, one for you, one for me, one for you). First he went, then someone else went.

Goodness that was a trying time, but we cracked it.

My DC has no ASD diagnosis, but was late to use pronouns (at around 3.5 years) and would initially reverse them all the time (until around 4).

We conquered it by excessively and purposefully using pronouns in front of our child. So a conversation at the dinner table may have been:

Me: I, mummy, would like to have the butter. You, daddy, could you please pass it, the butter, to me?

DH: Yes, mummy, I daddy, will pass itt, the butter, to you. You, DC, would you like to have some some of it, the butter, too?

We did this whenever we were alone with DC and found it worked especially well at the dinner table and when playing board games. We basically had to 'show' DC how to use pronouns whereas a lot of other children just 'get' it.

Don't know whether this will work with a child with ASD, but may be worth a try?

Yes, we have worked through this too.

Dd1 (severe ASD, with a language disorder) took years, but is finally just about there.

She too used language echolallically initially, so would ask 'would you like a drink?' or 'do you want to play?' For years.

She did a LOT of work on pronouns at school, using photos and describing them to other people. Eg 'this is John. He is my brother. This is Mary. She is my sister. They are my family.' Etc. and pointing to who she meant helped her sort it out too, so eg 'would you like to play?' She knew she was going to touch her own chest, which helped her think about which pronoun to use - not explaining that very well. But she knew the pronouns in a technical sense, but reverted to learned speech patterns, so had to work on formulating spontaneous speech.

In spontaneous speech, after a few years we did get to the point where we could prompt her to self correct, so could repeat her phrase, pausing at the incorrect pronoun, and she would correct.

She is 10 now, and all but there unless stressed or upset, when language is the first thing to go out of the window.

Thanks everybody! All great suggestions - I've started using them already.

time sorted it, and lots of talking. he only used male pronouns too. we are still not there with speech but apparently he is average or above for his age according to the speech therapist.

DD still does this aged 5 1/2 - its improving slowly and school seems to be the thing that's helped, listening and learning from the others maybe?

Like Pandas DD: 10 years old and MOSTLY gets it right, unless she's upset.
Doesn't help that she's functionally bilingual: home language and school language are not the same. She's probably more consistent in French (school language).

Brioche! How are you? Haven't seen you for ages (mind you, I'm not around as much as I used to be either).

Hope your dd is doing well?