DD has ADHD and possible asd. She can be lovely but since hitting puberty her sunny nature has been replaced by the most pessimistic attitude and huge anger I barely recognise her. I am treading on eggshells all the time.
She has had huge improvements since medication she was getting on at school, Seemed more relaxed and much more positive and was back to( apart from the odd teenage moments to be expected) her more cheerful chatty self. In last few weeks she has been very challenging and back on report/in daily trouble. I had a chat with her but just got screamed at I asked if she was still taking medication( I take in every morning with breakfast) she said "Of course I am why don't you trust me."
She is very cagey about her room but it stinks and despite me asking daily she never tidies it. It was grim chewing gum in clothes drawers, rotten food stuffed into and gaps behind furniture , then I found tobacco , 4 empty alcohol bottles (think vodka and wine) and 3 weeks worth of her medication scattered around her room in hiding places. So I ask her she hits the roof says the alcohol tobacco aren't hers and shes not taking medication again ever.
She won't talk about it she said it made "no difference" which is far from truth and made her feel sick , it did in first two days but then that side effect seemed to go.
Whilst I can't force her she will not take responsibility for her behaviour and is very close again to being asked to leave school and won't engage with any strategies that would make things better for her to manage. Any advice/people with similar experiences?