I don't think I can do this anymore - statement

[2boysnamedR]

I feel so low, I can't keep on fighting this stupid system.

The statement is almost two weeks overdue, I have had zero communication from school and zero from my la.

I keep on fighting but I get no where. The head can't even look me in the eye.

I have to get my toddler diagnosed soon and I worry so much for both of them. It's been 7.5 of being ignored. All people have to do is ignore me.

I didn't get a acknowledgement from the governors that they got my complaint. I don't know what my la will say re my complaint but have another eight days to reply. It's just killing me.

I have no one to help me, urgh!

you need to lodge an 'official' complaint as then they cannot ignore you. I would also be inclined to go down the LA office and refuse to move until someone comes to speak to you - also have you phoned your county councillor? The LA staff are answerable to them and they can sometimes get things moving when they start getting involved. look on your LA website and find out who your councillor it but this is all ridiculous - they should have done this by now - also can you phone the LGO and explain and see if they will take the case now as it is urgent and a clear breach

Unfortunately, 2boys, you don't have any choice but to keep on fighting. It is so ridiculously unfair but you know you are a bloody good mum to your dc and you will be able to say to them that you did everything thing you could. One day soon you will have the bitter satisfaction of knowing you won.

Did you put your complaint in to the council to the department directly? You might be as well going through their complaints department as at least the jobsworth a there do tend to log the complaints. The replies will probably be like mine and answer a different question to the one you asked...

Offical complaint went to head of children's services as that where my mp lodged it. It was acknowledged by the complaints team but it's not just about the statement, it was about the rep. That's the only one they acknowledged so that's what I will have to escalate up to LGO. I feel partly bad that all if that is in the complaint but there's no choice as the formal complaint re just not issuing a statement was ignored.

The head at the school sees me and turns his back on me. He has plenty of spare time to send texts about banning Yo Yo snacks and chocolate, being late as the "la have complained" but break the law to a child's rights, who cares? Just stop the little brats swooping f@ing trading cards, who cares about education.

It's killing me.

Oh 2boys! Everyone has down days. Can you do something completely different today, like go out in the sun* with with toddler and do something toddler loves, and just take some pictures for the album?

Does mini-2boys like swimming, or parks or sand or kites?

For sure, by murphy's law, if you are out that is when they will ring, but at least you won't be getting stressed by the phone.

Hope this helps
*sorry, it might not be sunny where you are(!)

It's sunny here and it's just me and baby as toddler is at nursary all day. Should be the best day of the week but can't stop crying. Scared for her in case she has asd and scared for my toddler as he desperately needs a speacailst pre school but that's down to my la...

They want you to get disheartened and to give up - remember that this is just another tactic to avoid giving your son what he is entitled to.

I've said it before - please don't faff around with official complaints. They're probably perfectly happy that you've gone down that route because in effect it's given them another 3 weeks or however long their complaints system takes before they have to issue a decision - 6 weeks or more if you have to take it to stage 2. Please contact SOS SEN or a specialist education solicitor and see if they can do an official pre-action judicial review letter for you.

Today feels totally overwhelming... We've all been here. The system really does grind you down at times. So many times I could have given up, but somehow you find the strength to keep going. You have to, as your little one needs you. No one loves them or cares about them like you. You can and will get their provision sorted, but there will be tears and frustration along the way.

Tomorrow is a new day and you will get your fight back. Sossen are brilliant. Give them a call. They really helped me as talking it through with someone who understood and knew what the law says, gave me the resolve to keep going when it seemed utterly helpless. Ring them or ipsea. Both are brilliant. Know parent partnership around the country varies, but I know people who have had really great support from them. Sorry not sure what your child's SEN is, but groups for medical conditions often have helplines if you look them up online (NAS for ASD.)

Call some support lines tomorrow with a pad and pen to hand; regroup then redraw the battle plan. The system is unfair and it does take so much energy getting through it, but you can and will do this.

Take care and good luck.

Try

Thanks I needed a good cry today. I called SOS sen on Thursday but not heard back yet. I tried ipsea again but couldn't get through.

Parent partnership phoned back and have promised to chase things up for me. I was in tears so I hope she got how I feel.

I have to view a asd pre school tomorrow for my non verbal three year old, it's all just on top if me at once.

The ds who is awaiting statement has dyspraxia - he's complex. He's got a language disorder and that's his primary need as he's half his life delayed.

He accidentally sprayed me in the eyes with air freshner tonight. God the joys! Like my life isn't hard enough just getting through the day without being blinded by ds who can't think anything through. 17 bloody months of appealing.

Let's see what tomorrow brings. I'm dreading the viewing. It breaks my heart. I'm just worn out and cheesed off right now

Maybe try SOS again? Volunteers on busy helplines can't always call back.