First week at assessment unit not as we planned

[Jamelly]

Hi guys be kind I'm new to all this, don't you just love it when things seem to go smothly then someone gives you that slap across your face BAMM
My 3 year old wee boy been diagnosed with ASD, (last month) was attending a day nursery twice weekly with full one to one, doing well, after discussions with portige, ed psych, consultant all agreed on assessment unit, that is after we had to fight to get him in there, I queried going straight into ASD unit or SE school, ed psych said nop assess unit first to see what's best, this unit seemed to meet his needs, met with teacher, teacher met with his day nursery everyone give her the run down, DO's and Donts / needs,
Well we're in week one and past three days they've been saying he's very busy/active ( everyone had all ready told them this) and today she tells me due to health and safety she's spoken to headmaster and he has to continue with only going mornings and due to safety they've put in for immediate one to one, ( 6-8 kids in class 3 teachers well 2 helpers) I'm just ranting here, but I feel as if they don't want him there, he has settled well, no probs at all, he's just mouthing everything at mow due to diff situation/people/ stress and then the teacher turns around and said to me Aww ITS WHAT THEY DO Grrrrrrr, what do you think I should do, go and see he headmaster, or ed psych, I can't see why they didn't have all this in before he started, I'm tempted to pull him out and out him back in day nursery where he had one to one, I now don't know if it's safe for him to go tomorrow with all this health and safety, or do I push for a SE school or ASD unit, my god I have ranted where's the vodka x

Just to add we welcome the one to one, she could of worded it better, but we thought naively that they are the experts and will have everything in place ready for his start x

I would hang in there if you can, as you are getting good evidence for what you want/need in the longer run.

Sure there has been some incompetence, and if you want dc to be there for longer once the 1 to 1 is in place I think it would be fair to ask for the time to be made up.

I am a bit confused how they can keep him safe for half the day and not for the other half. Do they have a better staff to student ration then?

If they need 1 to 1 to keep him safe and/or meet his needs, then I would hop up and down asking for this to be done immediately. There are agencies who supply staff, so it is finding who has to OK the funding and get it done as soon as possible.

Hope this helps

Thanks for reply senvet,
Our thoughts exactly if they require one to one on safety we can't see how he is safe in the mornings but not for the rest of the day, I did check with the teacher the following day that it was safe for him to be there, tomwhich she replied yes, we have organised a meeting with the headmistress on this Monday to discuss our concerns and hopefully they can answer some questions,
Think we been spoilt, in my sons private nursery they were amazing, couldn't fault them at all and everyone there genuinely had his best interest at heart, but obviously next step was to get him into education and the correct placement, and we had to fight for this, so within one week I've been in tears for most of it :-(
I'm going into meeting with head on Monday fully loaded with questions, I just hope they get funding for one to one soon, as they don't seem to be managing him very well at the moment, the little man doesn't mind going no tears or nothing off he goes and walks in, all he is doing is his usual busy self, and mouthing everything which I'm hoping is going to stop soon, I am hanging in there just about X

Mouthing everything is pretty typical to go with ASD - but the good sensory OTs are useful at unravelling this.

The only one I know is in London but shout if you want details.

The mouthing, if it becomes eating dangerous stuff, is where the one to one may come in, but the 1 to 1 will also be able to do some of the communication stuff as well, if they have had a SALT involved. So a silver lining to that one.

Keep it up. Nothing can stop him being a wonderful little chap, and with his supermum, he can go far and have a happy life.

We've been looking for an OT but were living in wales, so have yet to find one, but will keep looking.
I've just ordered two chewy tubes off the net hopefully these will help,
No SALT involved yet we seem to be a bit behind you guys across the bridge down here, but that's another thing on my list to enquire about.

Good idea with the chewy tubes.

There are several threads on here asking for sensory info - look out for poltergoose who tends to give a link to sensory information. Or just start a new thread asking for a link to sensory info for new MNers.

If you are looking out for indie OTS look out for one who has an extra qualification in sensory stuff.

On the bright-ish side, much of Wales is nearer the best EP I know who is in Weston Supermare.

Keep it up. He is happy, and that is the main thing

Oh, you need to move to the 'chat about your child' board under the 'child' tab. That is much busier than the education board