So who do you moan to when.................

[anniebear]

everyone else seems fed up with listening?!

A friend said a while ago to me that she didn't quite always know what to say if she gets a text off me saying what a hard day I was having, so I try not to moan to her now!!

Today I had a bit of a bad day, involving poo and screaming!! Text my Mum and another friend, suppose I just wanted to let off a bit of steam to some one. My Mum didn't even bother replying !!! later she said she didn't know what to say

and another friend saying sorry Love, don't know what to say

I only wanted to know that some one had 'listened' and maybe give a few arrhs!!!!! lol

So who do you let off steam to. My list is shortening as I feel my friends are thinking "here she goes again"

But if I am having a bad day or feeling really down I need to tell some one

surely my friends and Mum should have to worry about not knowing what to say? Thye only have to say oh poor you, or Oh that sounds like an swful day, hope it gets better etc

Is it really that hard?

Just feel I am becoming a pain in the bum to them all

Sorry to hear anniebear. I think if anyone should reply it should be your mum. I think friends dont really understand or know what to say sometimes. I let off steam to my mum and id be very hurt if she didnt reply to me. I never really say too much about my worries to my friends as it isnt that sort of realtionship as they dont have kids yet so i dont feel right telling them things like that as i feel they`re more interested in having a laugh. You are not being a pain in the bum, if i were you id have a word with your mum as if anyone should have replied she should have.

I did text her about something and mentioned that she could have at least replied and she said sorry

she has made some comment before about me monaing about Ellie!! Don't get me wrong, my Mum is lovely, loves the girls and we are very close. She just sometimes speaks without thinking!!

As for my friends I will only text them now and again and say that Im having a bad day, Ellie has screamed all day, or I have had to clean wee and poo up !!!! thinks like thst. Im not telling them how I dread the future and I see no light (although there is a faint glimmer now and again ) etc etc

Its not like its hard to reply to that

I used to moan on here everyday!!! lol But things have gotten better. I always woory people would think "Oh no, here she is again moaning" lol lol

can tell I needed some one to talk to today lol I'm waffling!! sorry

Waffle away anniebear. A good waffling keeps us sane! Well me anyway!

I have a support group that I go to once a fortnight. It's great for letting off steam and just takes away some of the strain.

IMO people don't need to say anything - a bottle of wime or some choccies or just coming round for half an hour while i have a bath is good for me - having said that it never happens - here - I am sending some choccies across the internet to you - catch. xxx

do you ever sometimes BH that people in a similar situation isn't always good? although lots of times (like on here) its brilliant!!!

I have a good friend with an SN child and whilst it is nice that I have a friend that understands better than others what I'm going through sometimes it can be a bit too much "Oh I know does that.............." and sometimes instead of getting a few sympathetic words I end up listening all about her child lol

everything I say gets turned to hers!!

Don't get me wrong, I can listen!! Just I end up listening too much sometimes lol

Oh choccies sound great mmmmmmmmm thanks

a nice balance of friends would be good lol lol

I am waffling a bit sorry!!

I know what I mean anyway!! lol

At our group we all take it in turns to talk about the past fortnight. Everyone gives advice/strategies if needed and you have to end on a positive (however small).

It's fab!

I have a friend with a child with SN. We have a codeword - we ring and say "can I have a rant" the other one says "fire away" and we just listen. It's pretty 50:50 so it works well.

BH & JJams that sounds really good!!

Thinking about it, it has just occurred to me that I don't actually have anyone IRL to rant to. I have to do it all on-line.

I had a bad afternoon, bad night and an early start with Ellie, really need to tell some one about it!!

I am going to have to find a new friend lol untill she tires of me!

Too be honest if I told my friend I didn't feel I could tell her when I was upset as she once had said she didn't know what to reply, she would be mortified!

But you do feel there is only so much upsetting things you can tell people

Then the other thing I find hard is when you say "Oh no, Ellie has started ....." and others say "Oh so has my peter, so has my Billy, Oh my Jenny does that etc etc but Jenny, peter etc are 2 years old and 3 years old