Anyone else doing "No demand Sunday?" :-(

[Ineedmorepatience]

Dd3 is so on edge today, everytime I have asked her to do anything is has led to lots of huffing, growling and unhappiness. Including such massive tasks as picking rubbish up off her bedroom floor, get dressed, choose something for lunch !

When I suggested she have a shower you would have thought I had asked her to jump into a bath of acid!! Her answer was " I have had 4 showers this week!!" [this is because we swam everyday on holiday!]

She has now taken herself off to her room but I am going to have to go up at somepoint

My friend who is a qualified nanny says that you don't ask them you tell them, ideally with a choice. But that is for nt kids. That said, she mostly had ingenious distraction tricks suddenly saying 'Oh do you want to see my wiggly worm' and suddenly toothpaste on the toothbrush had ceased to become a chore but a delight.

Good Luck, thinking of you

Thanks polter I dont think it helps that I have lost faith and dont really want to send her!! I feel like the SEN team are never going to manage to get the message out to most of the staff and there is a chance she could have some different teachers again this term which means starting again with them!

senvet I can offer Dd3 choices eg shower today or tomorrow to ease the pressure but I do have to be careful that she doesnt spot a get out!
Tactics such as the worm on the toothbrush would never have worked with her tbh, if she is going to do something she will do it straight away. If she is going to avoid doing it, that is that, decision made. Especially when she is stressed or anxious!

Urgh - the day before term starts is hideous in our house too :(

We've got an inset day tomorrow which I'm luxuriating in. I know it's rubbish of me. DS badly needs a haircut but I'm putting it off because I can't bear the tears and distress.

I am really dreading back to school tomorrow too , after the last break at christmas ds had a anxiety attack on the way to school so we had to turn back.

Thats good 80% polter! I tried to open up a disucussion with Dd3 yesterday about how much was good and how much wasnt but I didnt get very far!

I did ask her what she would do if she had the choice to go or not to go and she said she wouldnt go, so I asked her if she would miss the things she likes and she said hmmm!

I think if I took her out and HE'ed her I could easily make up for the those things with a few HE'ing groups and days out!

I dont know.... I will see how this week goes and find out when the EP is going in!

Yesterday dd2 was a total wreck, meltdowns all over the show.

Today we didn't get out of onesie (except to spend an hour in the bath - second fave pastime) and spent most of day playing Minecraft and watching Minecraft videos on her tablet (first fave pastime) terrible mother

Never mind no demand Sunday's - it's no demand Monday as well here. Ah well first school refusal of the half-term. Can't say I'm entirely surprised as school seemed determined to destroy the placement last half-term with their attitude. I thought they had come to a compromise with ds2 but obviously too little too late.

Oh no, sorry to hear that OneInEight

So sorry one Dd3 did manage to go but we had lots of tears.