Parents evening! FB boast posts

[2boysnamedR]

Here is my FB type boast!

Ds 1 had a dyslexia test as he can't spell or write for toffee like his mum test which showed he is in fact three years advanced in his speech!! but down below 10% for writing speed, and I'm not surprised as he talks throughout every lesson-
Ds2 made pleasing progress in what I don't know - oh yes that he won a statement appeal

Everyone was cooing over the toddler who ran round and round the hall in big circles as if I stopped him he would have screamed kicked and rolled on the floor just found out he is being put forward for amazing school as ms would never cope with him

So gushy proud at my kids resilience to life

Got to be pleased for friends who boast - but how come they are all geniuses? Wasn't like that when I was at school. We all went in the morning after parents Eve quite sullen after a telling off ;0)

My experience of parents evening for two angelic nt dds is universally positive which sounds great but actually it is the same for every parent in the school. It is a real struggle to get anything other than praise out of the teachers even when little Johny has set fire to the loos, works five years behind his age on those occasions when he sits down down to work and bullies all the girls in his class... It all means we come across as terribly negative about our dds because we are simply after constructive comments.

Oh dear, it must be me, I couldnt bear to see my eldest nt boys teacher. It's not all mega positive here, in fact I don't think his teacher has ever said anything positive about him ever ( damn! He is really clever too, too clever by far. Another teacher was telling me how he try's to trick her into not doing any work)

Makes my dyspraxic boy look like a angel ;0)

Sorry, my point was you can't read anything into your friends boasts. They maybe just can't read between the lines, their schools don't want to admit there is a need that they are not meeting or the teachers are just giving a lazy assessmentor can't remember which is their child. Maybe the school is happy to criticise your ds1 as they feel confident you aren't going to go to tribunal with him! Don't let them off the hook though; ask how they are addressing each and every issues. They will soon stop criticising him!

I think my favourite for ludicrous pretend-I-am-just-dropping-it-in boasts was a mum who said "she got 12 A*s at GCSE, as they all do"

The temptation to say 'wow, and has she inherited her mother's tact?' was quite great....

Nothing, and I mean NOTHING that is measured by school statistics and exam results is is of value compared with the personal qualities that should be respected. Resilience is right up there.

I remember a mum telling me with pride that her ds got a C, 2 Ds and an E in his GCSEs. It was a great achievement for him and justifiably celebrated. He has a good job now - better than a lot of kids who have been through uni with good prospects and no student debt.

Bilberry I know what you mean, my eldest boy has no major issues at all. He got a few minor things going on but he is my adverage kid.

He is very smart but I wouldn't brag about him as there's plenty of bad stuff at parents Eve. No one ever mentions the bad stuff when they talk about there parents Eve feedback. Which is a bummer as I left with nothing to smile about.

Maybe next year? Living in hope here...

Re a comment that you made 2boysnamedR:-
"but how come they are all geniuses"

I have often wondered that myself many times. And no they are not all geniuses. This is also one of many, many reasons why I am not on FB.

I have a lot more respect overall for the very few parents who either do not live their own broken dreams vicariously through their own children or have stated that their child (like my own) has struggled with some aspects of learning.

My son is the best looking kid ever! I don't care what anyone says - it's true ;0)

That's a interesting point zzzz - I don't think my parents ever said they was proud of me. Even at my graduation. I do wonder if they ever was? I always felt like I was a massive disappointment.

My sons never going on FB - or getting a mobile (she says diludedly) he's staying a kid forever!

zz you have hit the nail on the head - being pleased for your kids and other kids is just excellent.
Bragging sticks in the gullet. It is the 'my kid is better than your kid' we could all do without.