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Sooooo, Dd3 is.................

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Ineedmorepatience · 08/02/2015 13:30

"Fine" and "Doing really well"

Yeah right of course she is. Confused

That is why she is "below" or "well below" her targets in 11 out of 14 subjects!!

I wish someone at school would put their hands up and admit that they are not meeting her needs and then we might all be able to move forwards!

Why are "schools" so arrogant that they can't admit that their one size fits all approach does not work for all children!! Because this is clearly the case and we would all be happier if there was a bit more honesty going on!!

I am not happy, can you tell!? Angry

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PolterGoose · 08/02/2015 14:11

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Ineedmorepatience · 08/02/2015 14:31

I am very confused today polter because they are telling me she is fine and doing well and yet they encourage parents to look at the data which clearly shows she isnt!!

What do they expect me to say/do?? I dont know anymore Sad

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OneInEight · 08/02/2015 14:42

Agree, a little bit of "honesty" would be so refreshing. We are just beginning to get it from the ds's schools but it has taken so much persuasion that it is important that we know when things are going wrong so we can take steps to put it right.

The only thing to bear in mind is when these targets are meant to be reached - is it a target for now, the end of the year or the end of the keystage?

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Ineedmorepatience · 08/02/2015 15:50

I dont know one It is possible that they are for the end of the year but I cant find that information at the moment! It just says "current target" and "Current level!"

The mad thing is that I dont even care about academic targets!! Only that Dd3 is happy, it is them who keep going on about how much progress she is making, even in the tribunal but there is no evidence of it in their own data!! Its madness Confused

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2boysnamedR · 08/02/2015 15:59

Had this. Feel apart at tribunal. All results conflicted with nc levels.

Had to lay cards on the table for school and tell them I'm not stupid, please don't lie to me again. My trust has gone and they will never regain it

2boysnamedR · 08/02/2015 16:00

Feel - I'm mean fell I think Blush

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Ineedmorepatience · 08/02/2015 16:12

And to be fair in my experience NC levels seem to be plucked out of the air and bear no resemblance [sp] to the level criteria anyway!!

Trust has gone! That went when they fucked up the AT trip and tried to cover it up! Oh and when I found out twice that teachers didnt know she had ASD!!

I will lay my cards on the table after the tribunal round 2 if we get that far!!

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Ineedmorepatience · 08/02/2015 16:40

This has happened at least twice, to my knowledge! One teacher admitted by email that he needed "bringing up to speed" about her autism! And one had clearly forgotten when I emailed him and sent a different set of instructions for her after I reminded him that she has autism!

I also think that the teachers involved in the AT thing had either forgotten or didnt take it seriously enough to look after her in the way they had been asked to by myself and their line manager!!

It is just awful! The teacher who didnt know, told me the week after the damned tribunal! You would think they would at least be making some sort of effort wouldnt you!! Hmm

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Handywoman · 08/02/2015 19:59

I fear I'm going to have all this in secondary with dd2 (ASD) after having the same with dd1 in primary, and I am absolutely sick at the thought of it.

Ineedmorepatience I am so sorry, it's just awful..........

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I know the strategic thing would be to save energy for tribunal and kick ass. But day-do-day your dd is being failed and let down. It's impossible.

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Ineedmorepatience · 08/02/2015 20:29

Thanks handy I hope your Dd doesnt have to go through the same! Sad

DP and I have decided to let her go when she is coping and stay at home when she is not! we have to preserve her mental health at all costs and mine too!!

We are lucky that I work part time DP works shifts and Dd2 is home at the moment and Dd1 is on maternity leave so we have plenty of cover.

We are never going to force her to go while her needs are not being met again!! Decision made!!

Of course that doesnt mean that she wont be damaged further on the days that she does go but at least we can minimise the stress by giving her space and time out if she needs it!

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bjkmummy · 08/02/2015 20:36

that's a good plan Ineed but still its madness that you are going through this with her and her needs are not being met. I have already made the decision that no matter what happens my DD will never step foot in a mainstream secondary school

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Ineedmorepatience · 08/02/2015 20:41

LOL @ polter, yes I have 2 natural grandchildren who are 6 and 10 weeks old and 2 who belong to my Dd1's partner who are 13 and 10!! Shock

They are all wonderful and some are a little bit quirky Smile

Dd3 was 5 when Dd1 had her little girl!! Thats what happens when you have biiiiiig gaps Grin

bjk I think that is a wise move!! Unless of course you live near polter and your Dd could go to her Ds's school which sounds brilliant!! Wink

You are right of course, it is madness, but as I said to the EP and the council bigwig this week, we have been doing this for 7 yrs and nothing has changed yet !! Sad Hmm

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senvet · 08/02/2015 22:01

I had agreed a few things with the SENCo, she had a eeting and explained to them what they should do,
and when they didn't do it, I told her, and she followed it up.

But after half a term of that I emailed them all directly setting out in polite but firm terms what they had to do in a way so simple that none of them could miss it, and with my usually nicey nicey tone, covering veiled threats about the sort of things that happened when nasty parents found their kids' needs were not being met.

They were all smart enough to know that I wasn't a nasty parent. yet.

If you think there are still teachers out there who have got your dc wrong then there are ways of getting the message across wihilst maximising the chance that they actually do what they should do.

Your case is more complex than mine, but even if you can get all teachers on the same page with the most crucial bits, it is worth the email.

Good luck with the new regime

bjkmummy · 09/02/2015 16:21

so 2 weeks post dd tribunal and where all the indie reports give her a reading age of a 7 year old - shes 11 school said 2 weeks ago she was a 4C for reading which no way she was but the school admit she has a reader and scribe to help her to today 2 weeks later and shes now a 4A!!! a miracle!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!............

guess im heading for the dd is fine speech as well soon as well then......

2boysnamedR · 09/02/2015 16:58

We had ds go from 1c to 1a in term

Praise The Lord! It's a miricle!!

Unfortunately at the same time he was also well below expected levels for his age in reading

He is SO clever he could multitask being over expected nc levels in reading and well under at the same time

I always knew he was amazing

I just didn't know how amazing Hmm

2boysnamedR · 09/02/2015 17:08

He did the same in maths. I asked how, due to his interventions - in you guessed it - reading!

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Ineedmorepatience · 09/02/2015 18:10

Arrogant idiots!! Angry

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