Feel like i will look like a hypochondriac mother

[sarahsnail]

I have asked for a referral from school to be made for the school nurse regarding my concerns over my son.
The school have agreed to do this for me and the school nurse has contacted me with an appointment, now I'm feeling like a fool and that I'm reading into things to much and maybe I should just cancel the appointment with the school nurse.

I have had concerns for above a year that he shows signs of something not being right I'm not even sure myself what it is but something just doesn't sit right with me. I have googled Asperger's over and over and things seem to jump at me but then I question myself and wonder if it is just me and I am fitting things to my son..... if you know what I mean?

Did anyone else feel like they would be judged as being a fool?
I have had these doubts for so long and it as taken all my courage to finally speak to someone, I just feel a bit panicked now.

I expect most of us on here with children with Asd/Aspegers/Autism etc have doubted ourselves at some point and yes you may come across people who think you are over protective or have munchausens!!

But... if you have concerns about your child, you are probably right. Most parents are and also no professional is going to diagnose your child with anything if they are not certain he needs a diagnosis. They do not [contrary to the press] dishing out diagnoses like smarties.

Good luck with the nurse

Oops grammar fail

They do not dish out diagnoses like smarties

Thanks, it's nice to know I'm not the only one with these feelings.
I have kept a diary on and off for a year now- just the little things that seemed as quirky at the time but now seem to stand out more and more as he gets older.
If also noted down comments and things that people have said to me about his obsessions mainly his obsessions with dates which people seem to be astonished by. But I will share all this info with the nurse and see what she thinks.
Thanks for the advice, I'll get reading - it's a bit strange for me going to the nurse and telling her I know it's something but I just don't have clue, but I guess she has more experience in knowing.

My DS is almost 3 and has a diagnosis of ASD. I first raised concerns with health visitors when he was 18 months old but wasn't taken seriously, not even when he was 2 1/2. I'm pretty sure I was judged as an over anxious mother. I took DS to see a private developmental paediatrician as I felt I really needed someone to take my concerns seriously. I took lots of notes and videos of DS. DS was then diagnosed privately and NHS has now confirmed the diagnosis.

As others said, if you think there are some concerns, please discuss them. Good luck with your appointment.

Sorry Sarah, posted prior to seeing your last message. Good luck with the nurse.

All parents that I know of with kids who have invisible SEN/disabilities seem prone to caning themselves either for failing to act soon enough, or for making a fuss.

BUT parents' gut instincts are actually an excellent guide. If you think there is something that needs looking into, it most probably does.

Remember there are no two kids with Aspergers who present the same way. I remember one relative who watched a documentary on Aspergers and felt none really looked like her DS who had good imagination. Years later, DS was diagnosed with ASD.
And some kids have language delay which can make them present a little like ASD without being ASD.

So go for it, with lots of examples....