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please can you send me positive vibes for tomorrow

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jenk1 · 08/10/2006 18:33

I am about to enter into the lions den again tomorrow.

Have a meeting with the LEA, SEN,SENCO,s new headteacher at new school psych etc and other people.

They want us to put DS back into school but are not offering any support (he,s been out for almost 12 months) they will probably use the argument that he hasnt been asessed yet so they cant fund an LSA, but i know that other kids without statements do have 1-2-1,s and that is my argument towards them tomorrow.

Will let you know the outcome.

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Davros · 08/10/2006 20:49

Positive vibes.... positive vibes..... thoughts have wings...... thoughts have wings.....

Good luck, I'm sure that will help!

coppertop · 08/10/2006 21:37

Good luck for tomorrow.

essbee · 08/10/2006 21:52

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Socci · 08/10/2006 22:09

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reiver · 08/10/2006 22:27

Good luck for tomorrow. Keep us posted.

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jenk1 · 09/10/2006 12:55

Hello, had the meeting it was quite positive.
We are dealing with brand new staff and a brand new school are are very positive and sympathetic towards DS.

Started on a bad note as they refered to him as a "school refuser" to which i said immediately "he isnt a school refuser, he has AS and he suffers from extreme anxiety"
The SEN lady said they didnt have paperwork saying that he has AS and who dx,d him to which our psych said "i did a full assessment of him and he fits the criteria for AS"
they said they would only accept an NHS dx.
So i got my special educational needs act out that i had ordered from DFES and read to them the bit where it says they must work with outside agencies other than NHS, Social Services etc and they were shaking their heads andi said Mr XXXXXXXX is an outside agency and the DFES guidelines are that you should work with him, so the SEN lady said "well ive only been doing this job for 2 years and this is something that ive not come across before but i have never written a statement that doesnt have an NHS dx before" so i told her that i would be contacting IPSEA as i believed her to be wrong and she shut up.

Our psych has told us not to worry about that and to leave it to him to sort out, he is going to get in touch with DS NHS Psych and ask her to write a letter agreeing with him, he is confident that she will.
So,

This thursday me and DH are going into the new school to be shown around and take pictures,
Next Week DS and me and DH are going to be shown around after school has finished.
Then its half term.
Then the learning mentor is going to visit our house to meet DS
Then we are going to attempt to take DS into school with myself and his tutor.

Then we are having another meeting in Nov to discuss the next stage.

We are stalling them, as he has not yet been assessed and they have already told us that they dont have any money for a 1-2-1

So thats the plan for now.

I feel quite positive oh and also in the meeting was a teacher who taught DS 3 years ago who is now working at this school and she is lovely and DS really liked her and was sad when she left, she said she will help to show him around the school when he comes in for a visit.

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tobysmumkent · 09/10/2006 13:06

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Chocol8 · 09/10/2006 17:06

Well done Jenk1! What you have achieved sounds very positive! It brings back memories of ds's dx and the hassle with the school, but sounds like you knew your stuff so they couldn't muck you around.

I'm sure the introduction will go well and it's great to have ds's old teacher - very encouraging. Let us know how it all goes won't you?

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jenk1 · 09/10/2006 17:42

yes its amazing what a bit of knowledge of the law can do.
Im really not happy with the way they are disregarding DS dx, our psych comes highly recommended by the NAS and lectures at conferences and has been a psych specialising in ASD,s for 15 years, thats all he does - specialises in ASD,s, i mean he knows more about me than i do myself
tried to get in touch with my IPSEA lady today and will try again tomorrow, PP have told me a couple of months ago that LEA,s have to accept a private dx nowadays and i know that they are trying it on.
Bar-stewards.

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Davros · 09/10/2006 18:20

It does sound good Jenk, well done. Its amazing how poorly informed many professionals are. Most of the time the difficulties I've had have been to do with their lack of knowledge and incompetence, not as many suspect trickery or deliberate obstructiveness (although I don't put that past them). These mistakes are all good fuel to make a case but wouldn't it be much easier if we didn't have to keep making a case for our children?

coppertop · 09/10/2006 22:03

Well done, Jenk.

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