need some help!

[charlie0424]

I have a six year old son who is currently under going the diagnosis process for asd and adhd we are 4 months in from the first appointment and my sons behaviour is becoming unbareable. There just seems to be no help from any source without a diagnosis. He is becoming more angry (got suspended for biting a teaching assistant as she went to stop him falling over), is soiling himself several times on a daily basis and has been waking up a few times nightly after having bad dreams. I also have a 7 month old who is still waking at nights so i am constantly both emotionally and physically drained trying to keep myself together. Has anyone got any suggestions, advice etc .

Hi charlie, sorry to hear you are having such a difficult time. where are you located? have you looked in to parent support groups in your area? there are services that will not require you to have had a formal diagnosis before receiving support. if you can afford it there is also the option of seeking private support to help directly with teaching your child (e.g. an ABA program). unfortunately the statutory support and services that are made available to parents before during and after diagnosis are pretty poor but there are people out there who can help x

My 10 yr old daughter has struggled throughout primary school and has needed extra help. Appointments with speech therapists showed her speech and communication skills were not an issue. She has had various appointments with specialists and over the years I've been told she has a little bit of dyspraxia ,bit of adhd, bit of dyslexia etc. August born she is youngest in her class and has always been 12 mths to 2yrs behind her peers academically. Her reading is now on par however she struggles very much with maths an writing. But last Tuesday when she should have been doing her SATs she came out of school saying "Oh I dont have to do them..." To my horror and without my knowledge she was only child in yr 6 told in front of class that she would be helping yr 1 kids while the other 59 did SATs! She even had lunch with yr 1. I'm disgusted as I've always gone to all meetings regarding her progress, I'm a teacher myself for 14-19 yr olds. I've always been led to believe she just needed extra help esp with maths and handwriting, mild learning difficulties..
So why the hell did the school humiliate and exclude her without talking to me first? If she is only working at level 2 then why have I not been told how serious her learning difficulties really are? At home she is often poorly behaved for me and behaves as a toddler would if I say no to her about anything. She finds it hard to maintain friends in group but ok 1-1. Apart from reading, talking, singing she refuses at all cost to let me help her with school work at all
I'm frustrated,.angry, heartbroken with way the school have treated her. I've discovered she was only one tp be excluded from booster classes when ironically she needed the most help! She was upset when her class mates asked why she didn't do SATs. How upsetting for her. Huge confidence knock
I've called the school and now written to the head teacher in disgust. Its unacceptable but what now??

Any advice or views in general appreciated thanks. I've 2 other kids, my son in year 13 got A * in coursework and straight As at GCSE Level!

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