Ds1(14) announced to me last week that he had a reading age of 8.
I have spoken to his English teacher, who will put him forwards for dyslexia screening, although she thinks the problem is that he is monumentally lazy and needs to up his game.
In the last week, ds has been telling me the following:-
When he's speaking at school, quite often the wrong word will come out, not the word he intended.
He can't read small writing (he had his eyes checked a couple of years ago, but obviously this is something we will do again soon)
Feels he struggles to read.
Feels he doesn't understand what he's reading (although a comprehension test has shown that this isn't a big problem)
Dh and I have noticed since yr 1 (now yr 9) that he hasn't clicked at all with reading, he's very disorganised and forgetful (although I know this is typical boy/teenager territory)
He struggles socially, at the moment he has a small group of friends, they are the "misfits" in his yr group, and he feels he is the bottom of the pecking order.
He often feels bullied when to Dh and I it sounds like normal teenage banter.
He has history of being bullied since he was 7, we didn't know the extent until he started secondary and we had to take him out due to severe bullying and school were ineffective.
Can't tell the time with an analogue clock, only digital, dispute lots of practice.
He has occasional meltdowns, as opposed to tantrums, but only when under a lot of stress.
He has no empathy within our family, no idea when he's with friends, but often a situation will throw him and his way of coping seems to be to make it about him.
My mother had a suspected stroke earlier this year and had to stay in hospital - ds2 (poss ASD) froze and became very well behaved, ds1 immediately had a tantrum because he wanted to go out with his friends. He was very worried but couldn't show it until everything was ok. He was also like this when Dh had a stroke and was in hospital.
He hates change and going out anywhere, and is generally very anxious. He cannot tolerate ds2 at all (and vice versa), home is like a fight club - awful.
He's very practical, good at sports and very able physically.
I've flagged things up with schools since he was 5/6, but throughout it has been put down to laziness. He was screened for dyslexia aged 7 but didn't tick enough boxes for it to be considered an issue.
He had some sensory issues whe he was little, and chewed things, lined up cars (and potatoes!). Dh and I both feel he may be on the ASD spectrum - he's very similar to ds2 but not violent, or at least have some traits, but he doesn't really fit ASD (if that makes sense).
I feel bad because I've let this drop a bit in the last couple of years because of ongoing problems with ds2, and when I have raised issues with anyone about ds1, it has been made clear that he's a normal teenager and I'm trying to label him like I am ds2. I recorded him having a meltdown and played it to someone at school, but she felt he was having a strop because he wasn't getting his own way and was attention seeking.
Sorry, this is long, but does this ring any bells with anyone?
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