guy with SN incident at the bus stop.

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each morning as i take my girls to there SN school bus stop we pass a guy who also has SN waiting for his bus, now this guy stands waiting he doesn't bother anybody he sings and dances about often playing air guitar we always say good morning to each other. the local comp kids walk past him every day some stop and say hello some shake his hand, i have never seen any trouble, this morning however as i was walking towards him i noticed a car had pulled across the road to park in front of him on the corner as i got nearer i noticed 4 youths in the car and the driver had his mobile phone out and was videoing this guy singing, i stood in front of the guy blocking the veiw and asked what he was doing, he said i am videoing him to show my mates. i was livid, i stayed put until they drove off the guy was still singing and didn't seem at all bothered about what had happened, i am still very angry thou have stopped shaking, feel a bit useless but what can i do?

I think you did what you could. Most people would have passed by without doing anything - hopefully it will be a one off incident.

Sorry you were upset by it, some people are such gits.

I think you were braver then most people and did all you could do by challenging their behaviour. Although this man may not have to capacity to understand why they would want to film him, he was not objecting and therefore they weren't breaking laws. What you did may make them think about their own behaviour and it may not register now but they will burn with shame one day thinking about it.

i don't think it was useless - I think it was brave. You stood up to 4 youths and pointed out that their behaviour was not acceptable. So often we just stand by and watch

Well done!!!

there were no other people around when it happened, it makes me very angry that someone could do this, the 4 youths were all laughing at the guy and swearing at me, it makes me worry for my kids and i think that they may well end up in the same situation as this guy.

good for you, I think you were incredibly brave

You did what a lot of people wouldnt have. Good for you . Some people are such arses.

Adults with special needs have usually been parented and educated differently to the kids of today. In the past unusual social behaviuour was not challenged. I'm sure you will be able to help your kids to fit in when the time is right.

Well done you. Hate it when people stare at or comment on people with SN out in public. Once saw respectable suburban granny move ostentatiously away from guy with Tourettes who got our bus every day. Maybe she thought it was catching

the upsetting thing is thou that this guy john is probably in his 50's lives local and should be able to go out wherever he likes sing & dance and continue to brighten mine & other peoples day without having to put up with narrow minded thugs. I see it like this, if any of my three kids who have autism grow up to be able to go out alone (and to be honest i can't see it happening)do i have to stop them because of these types of people.
when i think of the sheer hard work that this guy and those around him have put into enabling him to go out independantly and be part of his community it angers me to see someone trying to undo all that.

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echo the others, you did as good a job as anyone could (without resorting to violence)

"Adults with special needs have usually been parented and educated differently to the kids of today. In the past unusual social behaviuour was not challenged. I'm sure you will be able to help your kids to fit in when the time is right."

Unfortunately it does;t always work like that, although I wiish it did.

OJ I think your response was fantastic. The one time I saw an adult with learning difficulties being treated badlty in public I completely lost the plot and ended up looking like a total lunatic in Virgin. I did complain to HO, but I suspect my loss of plotness in the store meant I wasn't taken very seriously. You did really well.

Marina - I know what you mean, but can I just say that if the surburban granny had never really had an first-hand experience of tourettes then perhaps she was actually a bit scared?
She may have mistakenly assumed he was drunk or something?

I don't think people sometimes mean to appear so unkind - it is fear, uncertainty and lack of knowledge/ education etc on their part?

i would just like to give you a hug, and say bloody well done for confronting the lads in the car......Brave in this day and age, you never know about knives and guns etc, but also (more so) brave that you had the courage of your convictions and said what you thought was right, instead of walking on by. I just wanted to say that for every ignorant person out there, there are more like yourself (like us commenting here) that will always try and do the right thing in our hearts. Standing up takes guts, and you have them. You couldnt have done any more.

Have to join in and say well done you. So many people wouldn't have bothered to do anything.
Just a thought - it it happens again, perhaps try to get the number of the car and mention it to the Police. What they did this time was bad enough, but you never know what else they might have on that phone and the police might just be interested to have a look at it.

what you did was fantastic. your incredibly brave and you should feel pleased thatyou have prevented this poor man being the latest email being sent round.

it is sometimes fortunate that thoise with SN don't realise a lot of what is happening around them, my ds gets bluuied slightly but he is oblivious to it...its sad to know that it happens buthe just thinks these people want to be his freind so he is happy.

Thanks folks thou i didn't feel brave i just felt angry and it never crossed my mind that the 4 youths could have a knife or worse.i took a pen this morning to write down their reg but i didn't see them, the guy was not at the bus stop either so i hope he is ok.