ds1's first appt with child psychologist tomorrow-what can i expect?

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hi,ive never posted on this topic before.my ds1 is 8 and ahs always had some behavioural issues,which i thought were due to his negative early experiences(his father was abusive toward me and ds1 witnessed alot)or my bad parenting.
but when he started junior school last year a couple of the teachers asked if i had any concerns about him,and it transpired that the senco and her assistant thought he had some traits of ASD,and suggested i see my gp to get him reffered to the child psychology team for an assesment,if thats what i wanted to do(they said it wasnt affecting his schoolwork but was affecting him socially,iyswim).i decided that i would like to try and get to the bottom of things,so that if he had any special needs i could find out as much as i could about it.
well,his 1st appt is tomorrow and im getting quite worried as i dont know what to expect from it.can anybody help?

My sister had this with dd2 age 10 at the time. That sister is very intellectual and her hubby so I don't know if thats why she found the interview very intrusive but funny.I think I would have felt more like you did! They had a laugh about it but when they had a diagnosis of aspergers for my niece we were all really shocked and upset until it sank in and now in hindsight it all makes sense and we can understand and help her better now. And the school is supportive.Which is great.

My other sister is having terrible problems with her 6 year old ds. He is getting in trouble at school and my sister is trying so hard with him and cant get to the bottom of it.

If your ds problems are to do with life happening to him I don't think you should blame yourself. Sh*t happens! Helping him to cope with any difficulties is the best gift you can give him as a mum. And when you have more info you can help him cope with whatever it is all about and that's all we can do.
And showing your son an example of a healthy partnership that works and that you were not prepared to take abuse is all GOOD STUFF I reckon! You are teaching him not to give up on life!

In the interview my sis and hubby were even asked about their sex life!

thank you rosy.
the appointment was pretty awful and seemed like they were trying to blame his upbringing/past experiences for his behaviour(though i am suffering pregnancy paranoia at the moment so who knows).
i would have thought they would have contacted his school before they saw him,really,but they didnt.i had filled in a form outlining my concerns and giving permission for them to contact his teacher etc.i just hope they get a clearer picture when they speak to the school.

sex life??! now that is going too far!

I'm so sorry the appointment didn't go well.

If you/the SENCO suspect ASD could you aske for a referral to a Developmental Paediatrician and/or a Child Development Centre (CDC) if you have one in your area?

FWIW not all Child Psychs are like this. Ds2 has a lovely CP who is very good at giving suggestions about why he does certain things. (Ds2 has ASD).

Well it was trying to find out if anyone in the family had problems relating to people kind of thing. They asked if anyone in the family was a bit odd and My sis was in kinks cuz EVERYONE in both familys are a bit odd! Just cuz it wasn't diagnosed in the past.

On another thread there was someone saying their son was diagnosed as asd but it turned out he had allergies to certain foods which changed his behaviour....?

i didnt realsise it could be genetic.
i have looked into the food thing with him but his behaviour isnt related to anything he eats or drinks.