DS7 is severely autistic, also general developmental delay, can only eat liquid foods although his autism & God means this is extremely limited.. Tomato soup, custard, yoghurt, nothing solid. He's prescribed nutritiion drinks but has refused these for 3 months, resulting in extreme, but manageable weight loss. Started at a special school in September, which initially was fine but he's refused to go for the last 3 weeks.. Even the mention of school results in him becoming extremely violent, spitting, hitting, gouging etc & he's literally destroyed the house. For the last week he's had a virus, who h means he's eaten literally nothing.. If he doesn't start eating in 24hrs he's going to be hospitalised on a drip, he's skeletal. We've been down this route before & it's not pretty, he's previously ripped drips from his arm & even though we know it's necessary, the hospital won't sedate him. From a personal viewpoint I find it incredibly hard because he tells me constantly he hates me & wants another mummy & won't let me near him. This inevitably means DH shoulders the entire burden of physically looking after ds.. I meanwhile have to try & deal with our other 2 children dd(14) & ds(12) who are good kids but just want a bit of a normal life, but inevitably have normal teenage issues, which I can't deal with. We have a social worker & CAHMS involvement, but it's reached crisis point. I know that I don't help the situation, I'm dealing with my mum (my biggest support) dying of cancer, which was extremely aggressive, so undiagnosed when she died 6 months ago & I have a history of depression so I know I know I have a tendency to just want to withdraw from everything. It's just complete shit & I know there's no immediate solutions but thank you anyone who reads this, venting lightens the load somewhat