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I have an idea (ASD and masking at school). Can I run it by you please?

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DishwasherDogs · 23/10/2014 13:39

I am by no means an expert in any of this, apart from being the mother of a 9 yr old who is on the autistic spectrum and having to work out the best ways to help him.

This idea is following on from the thread in AIBU about AS and girls.

In the past few months I have read loads of threads on the SN boards that highlight a problem between parents and schools, more often primary schools. I get the impression that unless a child is struggling within school time, teachers can be very sceptical of the need to support and help some children, despite input from parents.

I include my ds in this - he looks fine at school, no-one can see an issue, but he comes home and goes to pieces and has significant problems.

I'd quite like to put together some sort of online document that could be used as a resource for teachers to learn what they can do to help children who mask their feelings. I'd like this to include experiences from parents, and possibly from experts as well, maybe some quotes from OTs, SALTs and others.

This may be the crappest of crap ideas, and I'm happy to be told so, or pointed to the direction of such a document if it exists (because I could really do with it right now!)

I don't want it to be a MN thread, much as I love MN I don't think it would be taken seriously by SENCOs or teachers.

Do you think this is an idea that could be helpful? Do you think it could work?

My family's experience of ASD so far has been made immeasurably easier because of these boards and the experienced posters on them, happy to share their knowledge, but the biggest thorn in our side has been school's refusal to see any issue, despite video and voice recorded evidence. I have had to fight for the smallest allowances, which makes an already stressful situation much worse, and I'd like to see if I can do something to make this an easier part of the process for children and their families.

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BlackeyedSusan · 27/10/2014 00:20

ds masks at school. not only that but they lost his diagnosis.

there was a little info on the nas website about masking. I sent a link to school. doubt they read it.

BlackeyedSusan · 27/10/2014 00:26

I think there should be some easily accessible document that states that some children mask at school and just because the child looks fine in school does not mean all is fine.

it needs to state that this is a real problem for some children with asd, it is not a parenting issue. bastards and is not a figment of parents' imaginations.

BlackeyedSusan · 27/10/2014 00:31

because on top of my usual deftness ds hasn't slept much this term and I am slow of thought and over emotional me too, though mning after midnight does not help

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