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good luck 2boys today

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bjkmummy · 22/10/2014 09:15

will be thinking of you this afternoon and sending lots of positives thoughts your way. still got everything crossed that they see how ridiculous they are being and agree to issue that blooming statement x

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PolterGoose · 22/10/2014 09:30

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2boysnamedR · 22/10/2014 09:42

Thanks. I'm so stressed. Feel like this is his only chance.

Also worried I will get there and they issue the adjournment :0/

KOKOagainandagain · 22/10/2014 09:43

Another one thinking of you today.

Good luck and honks

OneInEight · 22/10/2014 09:48

Good luck Thanks

bjkmummy · 22/10/2014 09:58

it is very stressfull - cannot deny that and it does feel like it is all or nothing but ultimately it isn't - I remember star saying to me when I felt like it was all or nothing that there is always another path /way.

you can do this and im keeping everything crossed the tribunal refuse any application for an adjournment as it is not in the best interests of the child to delay things anymore. deep breaths - you are nearly there now - just this last final bit to do

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CurrerBell · 22/10/2014 10:01

Been following your threads 2boys and thinking of you Flowers

fairgame · 22/10/2014 10:33

Good luck Flowers

jigster01 · 22/10/2014 10:35

Wishing you all the best today ...keep strong !!

choc0clock · 22/10/2014 11:18

Honk honk

Ineedmorepatience · 22/10/2014 11:54

Keep going 2boys you are amazing fighting for your Ds.

Honking and flapping for you Flowers

pannetone · 22/10/2014 13:36

Thinking of you 2boys Flowers Cake Brew to keep you going but maybe better save the Wine til later.

BackToSchoolTOWIE · 22/10/2014 13:37

Good luck today. Honking and flapping for you.

xenzani · 22/10/2014 15:38

Probably a bit late now, but good luck.

Hope it went well, and you got the statement

Flowers
uggerthebugger · 22/10/2014 16:05

Thinking of you too!!! Hope it's gone well, and make sure you find some way of dumping all the excess adrenaline...

2boysnamedR · 22/10/2014 16:34

Well, it was adjourned. Took an hour plus for the panel to decide. They said its a complex case and it needs a whole day hearing. They are going to do it in our town or as close as!

Can I just say the LEA guy was vile. Absolutely vile. The judge asked why he hadn't let the school know the timings or Brought witnesses who had actually met my son.

He told the panel my indi salt would not attend. How dare he! She has her own mind and just told me on the phone she would!

He is a sad little dick who got a law degree but didn't get grades for legal work so had to get a civil servant.

More time has to work for me. I have to make this count.

bjkmummy · 22/10/2014 16:44

that's rubbish 2boys - im shocked they allowed it to be adjourned but then things do happen for a reason so like you say turn this around now for your favour - how long do you think until you get a new date sorted?

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BackToSchoolTOWIE · 22/10/2014 16:52

That is just awful. I am so sorry. I can only think they adjourned because, as someone said up-thread, the Tribunal themselves don't want any comeback on them, and they don't want the inevitable decision to be appealed by the LA.

But - as you say - the extra time has to work for you.

fairgame · 22/10/2014 16:56

I'm so sorry. I hope they don't adjourn for too long.

KOKOagainandagain · 22/10/2014 17:10

Sad and Angry

Half a day used to be sufficient for NIL, and for non-complex parts 2 and 3. Only complex parts 2 and 3 and parts 2, 3 and 4 needed a whole day. Complex parts 2, 3 and 4 sometimes went on to another day. This was directly related to the number of witnesses called - the more complex the case, the more witnesses and so the longer the hearing.

Now, the LA want more evidence (which can only be gathered via experts who can also be witnesses at hearing) and hearings take longer because the LA does not come to court prepared to defend the case. It is not surprising in these circumstances that the panel would adjourn - the case is getting more complex by the day, there will be lots of witnesses and therefore will take longer than a half day to hear. It's logical - if you just bracket out the injustice.

The sad little dick 'plays the game' ruthlessly and, from his pov, rather well - I don't doubt that he will consider adjournment to have been a 'success'. But if the adjournment is not for long and there will not be new evidence (that you are unable to counter - time is an advantage to gain further evidence for both sides) what will he do next time? This is a card he can only play once. And you will keep going.

I would still be tempted to hold my big guns (ie MS and DK plus a tribunal savvy EP) in reserve until appealing parts 2, 3 and 4 - you might need somewhere to escalate to at a later point - but I might be living in the (recent) past.

But for now, get pissed and imagine ways of torture. Wine

MeirAiaNeoAlibi · 22/10/2014 17:18

Flowers and thumbscrews

MeirAiaNeoAlibi · 22/10/2014 17:18

will look bad too

Ineedmorepatience · 22/10/2014 17:20

Oh no, nightmare!

2boysnamedR · 22/10/2014 17:30

Dh is looking for shallow graves as I type.

It's in six weeks. Let's hope ds doesn't get noro virus when the la ep and slt go into school eh ;0)

I was asked about a solicitor today but as said before, that's for when I appeal his statement. Which I get I will straight away as this lea will never ever give my son what he needs without fighting me. I have no doubt this will be a bitter fight to the end

bjkmummy · 22/10/2014 17:34

im calling an EP and ms to my NIL as the LA are not accepting any of our reports and moving to get their own SALT which for an appeal to a NIL is madness when you think there is a 3rd tribunal potentially here to go.

take some time to think 2boys where you go next - MS I found to be pretty quick but she is expensive although I would say worth every penny

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Icimoi · 22/10/2014 19:18

What a bummer. I really wish the tribunal would just stop letting local authorities get away with this sort of crap. Which area are you in? Not trying to out you, I'm just curious about where this idiot hangs out and whether he might be someone I've come across who used to work for that firm some of us know only too well.