I've name changed as I'm posting this for a friend.
She has an 8 yr old dd who has been having problems for nearly a year.
They've been to the GP who is fobbing them off, they were referred to CAMHS but this was turned down in favour of her being observed in school by a health visitor and youth worker.
My friend is considering going private, but who should they see?
The GP sounds like he is being very unhelpful, when my friend asked for more investigations said "what would a diagnosis prove?" and to carry on with the youth worker, who sounds like she is blaming my friend and her husband. Observations in school have shown nothing as, like so many children, the little girl only shows this at home.
She's written a list for me to write here, it's long, but I feel that she'll get more answers and clues as to what to do from MNSN. (I haven't posted this in behaviour/development as my own son is waiting for assessment for asd and there are some striking similarities between them, and I have had so much advice from you all here
- Phobia about getting ill, other people having illness
- Dislike of hair being washed, combed, cut, finds head being rubbed when drying hair hurts her head.
- Wrings hands, rubs feet against each other until red, bites fingernails until sore.
- Dislikes any form of change which may involve her.
- Does not like to travel by bus, says she can feel every bump in the road and it makes her throat hurt.
- Can be aggressive in her speech and behaviour towards her parents, especially her dad.
- Has strong dislike of family dog, would actually harm him
- Will not make eye contact with people she does not know well.
- Sleep pattern can be erratic, some nights she will go to sleep very late but wake up early, says she hasn't slept only rested, although she will have had some sleep.
- Does not like school, doesn't want to go and cries on journey to school. Once there is ok, but I believe she is putting mask on as can sometimes erupt once home.
- Needs to know where Mum is at all times, fear of not having mum with her, will not go to grandparents at weekend as it means leaving mum, saying over and over that she loves Mummy, only Mummy.
- Eating is very picky, will only eat limited amount of different foods, likes them not to be together on same plate or not touching.
- Does not like her throat being touched even lightly, says it hurts.
- Constantly complaining of lump in throat, stomach pain. This happens every day at some point. Tests on throat revealed nothing physically wrong.
- Says that loud noises, eg. washing machine spinning, bother her as she can't cope with sound.
Thank you for looking, I'll be emailing my friend a link to this. Hopefully it will be useful for her!