How should I respond to this...

[minionmadness]

Ds ASD (6) is still struggling in YR2 and we are having daily issues with his behaviour.

To her credit the SENCO has called a meeting to collate a behaviour management plan with myself, CT, Inclusion support ASD Teacher and county SENCO.

I didn't read the home/school diary until 5pm as we have swimming straight after school. Apparently there was a change of plans whereby the class had changed for PE, then went to the hall only to find the hall had already been booked so back to class they went. DS was very vocal about the injustice but calm. Back in class they were getting changed and ds pushed a girl over and hurt her. He went into the toilets clearly frustrated.

He wasn't allowed out at playtime as it was decided he wasn't calm enough to play with others. Furthermore when the CT and deputy head spoke with him, they got the following... "I'm a bully and stupid" and "just put me in jail the class would be better off without me". This language is increasingly difficult to hear and I worry for his fragile self esteem... he is 6 FFS.

It goes without saying I don't want him hurting other children but I am sat here trying to decide what to do next, I do have a number of options in mind but would really welcome some other views.

At least, the school sound like they are understanding - is that the case?

We use CBT - it has helped beyond belief. Friends similarly recommend neurofeedback and it is on my list.

At the moment it's like a nightmare I can't wake up from and last night I was ready for pulling him out with a view to home ed. I think it hit me that even though he is at a very supportive school who work with me, it still might not be enough and I'm genuinely worried for his well being as his self esteem is genuinely on the floor and for the first time I sat and sobbed.

Having slept on it I decided against that and called into speak to CT when I dropped him off. Very receptive and is beating herself up that he is clearly not coping in YR2. Senco and deputy head came along and we had an impromptu meeting ahead of Thursday.

We have agreed to up his support as a temporary measure to concentrate on the ABC chart to establish triggers to move forward.

I'll dig out the Explosive child and revisit that. Will do some research on CBT also... Thanks. He did have some sessions with CAMHS but honestly they were next to useless.

You did better than me then, - in that CAMHS turned us down. We go privately and although it is expensive, it gets to all those areas that I can't , it reframes what he experiences and makes life a bit better.