one step forward, three bloody steps back

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After a terrible morning today and Saturday (Sunday was fine) I thought I better let the unit know what had happened and how ds was feeling. I was told they were too busy to talk to me, i would have to wait till after school. I stressed that I needed to tell them about the weekend. They didn't want to listen, told me they were too busy. I did eventually get two mins with the teacher, (after reminding them they were supposed to work with parents)

She listened, saw I was upset, blamed me for not carrying out his excersises regularly enough, and suggested I went on a parenting course!!! Why do people always blame me for ds sen! I though everyone was eventually on board with his needs, finally getting an assessment for ehcp, then get this thrown in my face again. I was so angry I cried, there in the foyer of the unit.

I'm afraid i don't know your 'story' as it were, but that sounds really crap.

You would have thought school would be really keen to know what had been going on so they could best meet your DS's needs . Sounds like it is a case of 'just hand 'em over, we can deal with them better than you'. Not helpful at all, and really undermining to you as a parent.
Maybe try to talk to them after school and re-establish the fact that they need to hear from you, not just the other way round?
Good luck, and I hope your DS is ok.

Defiantly just 'hand em over' attitude. We are no longer allowed in the foyer, or car park, teachers collect and drop off at the gate, parents stay in the street, where we certainly don't want to discuss confidential matters. This would be normal in high school, but he is year 1.

That sounds rather draconian. Are allowances not made for children that need extra support - ie more accessible channels of communication than a quick chat in front of the assembled children and parents?

From reading stuff on here, it seems that the first and long-clung-to-line is that parenting is at fault, and it takes a lot of persistence and strength from parents to keep going before they (schools, GPs, HV etc) recognise that something else is going on.

Have you decided how to approach things going forward?

Sorry, I wasn't clear. This is not ms school. Two days a week he goes to a unit for children with behaviour issues. This is the unit. Mainstream school is great with communication.

So, you'd expect much better comms then surely? Being too busy simply means they decided not to try to meet your DS's needs this morning .

To be honest, I don't think they meet his needs any day. I'm sure he just goes there to give mainstream school a break, I cant see any benefit to him stall.

That sounds crap. What choices do you have about this?

Not sure. There is a meeting next week so ill tell them I want him in fill Tim school. I doubt they will listen to me though.

Full time, not fill Tim! Sorry