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Aba - school has said no :(

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sammythemummy · 24/09/2014 07:19

I'm so angry at them for wasting my time like this, the ahead said he wanted to speak with another Head (who has ABA running in their school), so I look for one, speak to him and pass his details on and it turns out our ahead didn't even bother to call him??? He just reached a decision it out even meeting my consultant.??

I know it's his school and he can do what he likes but bloody hell, I don't get a say in what intervention my child should get?

He said that they are successful with the team that they currently have, that's SALT who will have 1 session a week (probably work on the turn taking shit that they've been doing for 6months at nursery), ed psychologist (theist ed psychologist was a nice man, but other than scribbling a few things on his notebook and commenting on how lovely my child is-he has zero input in her development) and someone from a special school who helps out with behavioural management.

Am I unreasonable to tell them I do not want any input from this lady from special school?? I've no time for her wishy washy intervention tbh.

The LEA have given us some funding until November for me to use for ABA a home whilst we work it out with school.

Fiona has said to not bother going to tribunal as the LEA have given us money that my dd is actually not entitled to (it was a typo on their part) and because she doesn't have a learning disability and is considered "hfa", itll be hard to prove that ABA is the only intervention that will work for her.

Our next compromise will be to train their LSA and have my consultant to in once a month to help them in behavioural targets and for us to continue ABA at home, but I have a funny feeling they'll say no to that as well.

Arrrggghhhh

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StarlightMcKenzie · 01/10/2014 23:22

Yay!

Goodness you're having to work hard at this. Good luck!

AgnesDiPesto · 01/10/2014 23:32

Great! Fingers crossed.

sammythemummy · 02/10/2014 07:36

Thank you ladies!!

star you won't believe the stress I've been under- but it'll be all worth it if school see the hard work and passion that our tutors have

The issue is that my dd1 looks like she's fine, I.e she plays nicely with an alongside other children, some chasing each other etc- but where's the language? She doesn't use it so she needs lots of prompting

Fiona is going to draw up an agreement at some point

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StarlightMcKenzie · 02/10/2014 07:41

Sammy, actually I do understand the stress sadly.

We were where you are but never made it Sad.

salondon · 02/10/2014 09:40

excellent news.. so happy for you..

sammythemummy · 02/10/2014 10:45

Thank you salondon- you've been of great support!! Sorry for my numerous texts/calls :)

I'm so sorry Star, I find the whole school system ridiculous and at times bonkers...have you continued with ABA at home?

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StarlightMcKenzie · 02/10/2014 11:23

Our story is that I changed my battle to get an independent Special School instead. The successes of that we're that ds' needs we're well understood, they had excellent SALT, he was happy and safe. Unfortunately they weren't so hot on behaviour and interpreted low level disruption as sensory seeking (it might have been) and losing focus or poking a peer got to a bounce on a trampoline or a massage. That is not how I would have dealt with it for ds. I so felt they never understood his strengths and that he was being held back due to his clever avoidance behaviour.

His age now makes an ABA argument difficult as does his 'progress' at SS. He progressed in line with professionals low expectations but not mine.

I currently HE and it is a huge success. I use all I have learned about motivation and functional behaviour. DS is a delight to teach and an enthusiastic learner.

bialystockandbloom · 03/10/2014 09:56

sammy that's great news, well done! Really hope the school get on board. I'd be inclined to show them your targets and data too so that can see exactly how the programme works and how progress is made and measured. I think once they've seen that alongside seeing how your tutor actually works, it's pretty hard for anyone to argue that it's not an effective form of intervention. Good luck Smile

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