We need someone to see our son? how/ what/ where

[lala21]

Have been on here b4 about my DS who is nearly 6 and we feel 100 percent shows traits of being ASD.

Cahms rejected us 2 yrs ago as it was felt he was showing no signs at all at school of any problems.

DH has finally agreed that we need more help at home. We could afford a private consultation - if only to then go back to the gp and show them or the school. Or is there something else we should do. We cannot go on like this- as a mum or parent you know your child more than anything and with every little head butt, bite, screaming, hitting punching the walls, and self harm a little bit of me dies feeling I've let him down.

Do I approach the senco even though he has only started yr 1 and is not on their radar. I told his reception teachers at the end of July his history 1 was shocked and could n't see it but thankfully the other said she could see how and where he masks it and hides his frustration-

I just don't know what to do?

Sorry to bother you all just some advise please?

would be lovely thank you I meant to say

You could go to the SENCO or your GP but this method will probably take a long time and if your Ds is good at masking you could easily struggle to get a referral.

If you can afford to go private there are lots of people out there who will see you and your son.

I would recommend putting a more specific question on the board asking for recommendations of proffs who are well respected.

Good luck and dont beat yourself up, we are all doing our best and nobody can do more than that!

Thank you Ineed yes your right we probably will struggle but a good idea to put out for proff's who other's can recommend or have even used. Cheers x x x x

Possibly a good starting point would to ask your GP for a referral to a developmental paediatrician.

AFAIK it's very common for dc to mask things at school, in which case it's going to be limited how much they will/can do to help.

Try to keep diaries so you can hopefully start to spot triggers.

A book that PolterGoose on here recommended is The Explosive Child. We've found that it really helps with ds, it's worth reading.

Please don't feel you're letting him down.

Sorry, more.....

Talk to school, they should take you seriously, and hopefully try to put some things into place to make school less stressful.

Ds's school are sceptical about ds's problems, but they are trying a few things, and they're letting me put a few things into place (5 point scale, distraction box, things like that)