School, god help us

[Peppapigisnotmyname]

Hi, so school starts again for my sd tomorrow and I feel panic stricken :(

He's nine, just about to start year 5. The school is very academic. DS has a dx of high functioning ASD. He gets very very anxious and is a very kind shy boy. The last two years have been awful, he's getting increasingly stressed, sometimes I've struggled to get him in at all. Asked gp for help but got nowhere. Told school all about the problems at home because of the pressure they're putting on him - basically they don't give a shit :(

Dh works long hours and I have no support with my kids - also have a dd aged 5. In laws won't get involved - their choice and I also have a severely disabled dad who I help look after, my mum died some years ago. I'm on antidepressants as I'm struggling to cope. Just can't face more fights with school, life feels so hard, I feel like running away :(

I really feel for you peppa

I dont suppose you could look around for another school?

I realise that might sound really difficult and impractical but he still has 2 yrs of primary and he may be much happier somewhere where there is less pressure.

Be kind to yourself, it sounds like you have a lot on your plate!

I agree. is there a special school in your area? even if there isn't, your LA could provide transport to it. the special school in my city takes kids from all over the region - some from 25 miles away.

It sounds like he might benefit from somewhere much more relaxed. He would still be stretched academically if need be, but in a calmer and more appropriate atmosphere.

Try asking your DS's consultant for starters? or the ed psych?

Does he have a statement peppa ??

Thanks for your replies. Yes he does x

Peppa, oh love! this sounds dreadful. I'm so sorry to hear how things are for you.

My ds is 13 and he goes into Yr 9 tomorrow. He's in mainstream with ASD attachment. He's so-called high functioning, was discharged from autism services twice (two different counties) despite my objections. We saw a specialist Professor in August. The report was terrible to read and I took it into school today, to read them the "riot act". They mean well but ds missed most of Yr 8 last year. They tried hard but I said today, they've got to try harder. We all have.

What about contacting Parent Partnership. Get their support to go into school and tell them exactly how you feel. Do you have social worker involvement t? Have you had a CAF? Where all parties/professional are brought together to review and discuss strategies?

Hang in in there Pepper love.