Homestart - Don;t want to offend

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aaronsmummy · 19/09/2006 22:10

Had my first Homestart help today. She was lovely and was great with the children. She said i can go out and do something next week and leave the lo's with her. Don;t feel like I will be comfortable with doing that until I have got more used to her but I don;t want to offend. I thought I wasn;t allowed to do that either.

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PinkMilk · 19/09/2006 23:34

I am positive you aren't supposed to do that - it's something they made a big deal of when I started with them, that we can do whatever I want but our volunteer mustn't be left in "sole charge". Nice of her to offer I suppose, but if you don't want to offend you can easily just say that you don't want to break the rules as a get-out so she isn't offended.

mysonsmummy · 20/09/2006 00:02

maybe they both work differently - or the criteria for both of your visits are different. they are such a profressional set-up cant believe she would be offering if it wasnt meant to happen. more than her jobs worth i would think. i would be proud to say ''actually i dont feel ready to leave my children with you yet - they dont know you that well''. thats what any good mother would say anyway. IMO. you wouldn't leave them with anyone else that you had only met once so sure they will understand. IMO

reiver · 20/09/2006 21:40

No I wouldn't want to go out either! However, if you are comfortable that the children are happy & settled with her could you not just move into another room for a short while (even just a few minutes at first) and perhaps catch up with some ironing ......or whatever?

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aaronsmummy · 21/09/2006 19:13

i may chance a long bath but i dont think i will leave the house mumcan't even cope with ds2 so i doubt she will be able to. Anyway I dont know her enough yet.

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PeachyClairHasBadHair · 21/09/2006 20:06

Our volunteers (used to be the Organiser) did do this quite often BUt it can vary between schemes as HS is run on a franchise style basis (obv a charity though)

if ypu're concerned, call the Organiser who will subtly (trust me, we oculdn't afford to offend a volunteer, precious things that they are LOL) try to put her off for a bit.

She is moving a bit fast, just sounds keen

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aaronsmummy · 22/09/2006 07:48

Thanks Peachy, forgot you were an organiser. Should have asked you first.

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