Brand new baby - worried about her genes

[2boysnamedR]

I had my fourth baby last week. There's been lots of talk of her dad's genetic duplication but nothing on getting her tested. See the genetatsist next month but she has the sacral dimple both my sen boys have and her dad has. I have no idea if the dimple is linked to the gene but I can't help feel sad that I might be face ing another child who isn't going to be full of wonder and questions and asking why all the time.

All the other mums on the maternity ward with their chatting two year olds made me feel so sad as my two year old has only learned his fourth word this week - milk :0(

I have been told to just wait and see but can I just feel a bit sad? Can't I be be entitled to have emotions about yet another childhood that's less than ideal? I just want to have a to idler sit on my knee while I read to them or tell me they love me. Not to much to ask surely?

Congratulations on the new baby. I would be anxious too in your shoes but the fact is the worry won't change whether she will be affected or not so I hope it will not stop you enjoying the lovely, tiny baby phase. (Am also bemused as to why your dh is unaffected if the genetic duplication is the cause of your son's problems).

no advice really 2boys, just wanted to say congratulations

I don't really understand why my husband isn't effected but I haven't seen the genetasist yet. As I understand it you have two arms on each chromosome so maybe he has one duff one and one good one and his duff one is switched off? I have a biology degree but I still don't fully understand it

Congratulations on your new baby! I can completely understand your sadness and you are allowed to feel sad. Seeing your child/children growing up and not developing in the way most children will is painful.

Seeing parents with their NT children can be hard as it just reminds us of everything we have lost. I'm not going to tell you to look on the bright side but as someone else mentioned, you do have a gorgeous tiny baby and they are so scrumptious, that I'm prescribing lots of cuddles and tiny hand holding.

Hope all goes well for you and for you.

Thanks. I don't see the genetasist till September so until then I will try to put it further back in my mind. With the boys off school and no portage we almost feel like a normal family isolated from the world and it's rules and expectations.

Congratulations on the new baby
( my little ones 6 months now and I miss new baby cuddles already)