Mrs F, an update on the friends after tea, as promised. Dd went tonight after school, I dropped her off. There were 2 other friends from school going as well. As I was dropping her off explained to the mum that I felt anxious as hadn't left dd with anyone but my mum or mil. She reassured me not to worry and would phone if there were any problems. As I said before and knew I would I sat by the phone waiting for it to ring - thankfully it didn't!!! Picked dd up at 5.30 but ended up staying until nearly 7 as dd was happily playing in the garden with her friends. Dd had been fine, ate all her dinner and was basically playing with her friends. It is such a huge milestone for me, I am going to have a huge glass of wine to celebrate. I would still be choosy about who dd went home with though! Her friends mum was just so lovely and understanding and it makes a big difference.