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SENCO talking about getting some form of diagnosis

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Blandmum · 13/09/2006 16:13

Had a quich chat with ds's SENCO this afternoon, and she feels that we might need to be lookign at some form of diagnosis for his literacy problems.

I know it isn't a big deal, and was fairly sure that it was on the cards, but even so it is a bit ow a downer. Her worry is that it is that it will knock his confidence at bit, and he isn't the most confident of lads.

Positive side,, at least we have a SENCO who is pro active

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tamum · 13/09/2006 16:15

Oh, that must be tough mb. How much can you keep from him, do you think? I don't mean to be sneaky, but just for confidence?

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Blandmum · 13/09/2006 16:22

it isn't the Dx that is the issue, so much, just the fact that the little scrap is getting older and is noticing more and more that he can't do the things that the other kids can do. The school is very sensitive, and we do what we can, but it is never going to 'hide' it from him for ever.

And he is such a smashing little spud. never mine, worse things happen at sea and all that...

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tamum · 13/09/2006 16:24

Will a diagnosis mean he can get more specialised help? I do know what you mean though, don't want to come over all Pollyannaish. A friend of mine is just facing much the same thing with her ds after several years of struggle.

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Blandmum · 13/09/2006 16:29

yes, and I can't fault the SENCO for her drive to this. We are also in the exceptionaly lucky position of having extra money available from the RAF to help to support him.

I'm not moaning about it, as I know how bloody lucky we are to get the extra help etc.

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FioFio · 13/09/2006 16:30

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Blandmum · 13/09/2006 16:43

Yuo are quite right Fio. And to be fair, whatever it is , it is nothing compared to most of the mums on this bit of the board.

He is just very, very 'behind' with his reading and writing skills. He used to have some behavioral issues, but those have now mostly gone. I don't know what we are looking at, possibly dyslexia? Who knows?

And you are right, a dx gets him the help he needs and that is all that matters. Still itis a little sad.

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FioFio · 13/09/2006 16:49

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beckybrastraps · 13/09/2006 16:50

I know it can go either way, but there is the possibility that getting a diagnosis might actually give him a bit of a boost. I have found this with some of the children I've worked with with literacy problems, and it has certainly improved things with their teachers. You never know, the Ed Psych may actually come up with some useful strategies.

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Blandmum · 13/09/2006 16:54

SENCO feels so, and I do trust her. As I say, I've been feeling for a while that this would be on the cards

I do see it as a positive, in that he is with people who are so keen to make sure he meets his potential, still you wish he didn't need it.

I'm just being a bit self indulgent

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beckybrastraps · 13/09/2006 17:05

Well, of course. I know exactly what you mean. Dd has delayed speech. There are no worries about her general development, or understanding of language, so we've got over that worry. But I do fret about the prospect of speech therapy, even though I know children with much more significant needs than her. So yes, you indulge as much as you like!

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Blandmum · 13/09/2006 17:07

we had a bit of that with ds when he was younger. Some low level SALT put it right. He still isn't the most fluent of chaps, but he is within the 'normal' range now IYSWIM.

He just doesn't take to communication that much

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beckybrastraps · 13/09/2006 17:09

I just want her comprehensible by the time she starts school. At the moment she talks like cod types. At least she does talk now though. No sound at all (not even babble) until she was 2, and very little until 2.4, when she suddenly cottoned on to the whole talking thing.

coppertop · 13/09/2006 17:18

It's horrible when someone else confirms your suspicions about a problem. I know it's good that he's going to get some help but I think you're more than entitled to be "self indulgent" on here.

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Blandmum · 13/09/2006 17:26

I am just very aware that his problems are minimal comaperd to many peopl on here

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FioFio · 13/09/2006 18:18

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Blandmum · 13/09/2006 18:19

THanks Fio.

Plus look at my spelling/typing.....is it any wonder the poor little bugger struggles

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Kittypickle · 13/09/2006 18:26

I think however mild it is and however much you know it's on the cards, someone saying out loud is a shock. DD has dyspraxia & hypermobility and really in the grand scheme of things it isn't a big deal and diagnosis has given her the extra help she needs and boosted her confidence. But I felt very peculiar about it when the whole thing came up and it was me who approached her teacher in the first place. I think it's really good to get it out of your system and you should come on here for a moan as much as you feel you need to.

coppertop · 13/09/2006 21:14

Post away, MB - or we'll follow you around MN and threaten to drag you back here by your hair.

sphil · 14/09/2006 22:13

I sympathise MB. DS1 has mild SN - no dx but we think dyspraxia, auditory processing and social communication difficulties. I am pretty sure that this is where his difficulties lie but the moment anyone else confirms what I'm thinking I feel really sad. DS2's SALT has just assessed him and though he did extremely well in all areas of the language tests, she told me on the phone today that she thinks he has some mild social communication problems. Now compared to DS2 (ASD) his problems are miniscule but I worry as much about him as I do DS2.

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