Ds went back to school today

[suedenley]

Hi everyone you may have read my thread last week when DS1 refused to go to school. Well he has agreed to go back today to see if the situation is any better i was very encouraging and tried to make it all sound fun and exciting, but feel a fraud and quite anxious about it, as when i picked up his brother on friday one of ds1 classmates came up to him unaware i was there and said " your brother is a gay freak ".
I told the head this morning and her reply was that she had spoken to all the year and none of them realised this was bullying and none new that these were bad words to call someone !!!!
Am i going mad these kids are 10 years old am i really supposed to believe these kids think these words are friendly terms ment in a kind endearing way ????
my boys are 10 and 8 they know these are not nice words and that to call someone names is mean and hurtful
what do you think please

Anyone
{blush]

the head sounds very naive sue

thats a nice polite way to describe her mrs flo
wish i could be so charming , i working on it though lol

well I wouldnt be charming either! i just dont know what to suggest

The Head is either lying or completely out of touch with the real world. IIRC from your other thread (without wanting to sound like a stalker!) they only said this when they thought an adult wouldn't hear it. They knew exactly what they were saying.

Spoke to DS key worker she isnt very happy either and is firing off angry letters today, ive been told to write down everything i was told with times dates etc , especially the bit about me telling them he is likely to run out of school and them saying he wouldnt be welcome at the school if that happened ,as it isnt safe, as this is neglecting there duty of care after ive told them this could be a problem. im trying to focus my anger but its not working very well. He didnt want to go again today but after a major melt down i managed to get him there but leaving him at the school by which time he had calmed down he looked worn out and so forlorn and he just said im confused mum and walked away i broke my heart in the car on the way home . Thank god were seeing consultant today

Poor ds.

I'm glad you're getting some help from the key worker. Best of luck with the visit to the consultant. xxx

Thankyou coppertop
Had lots of suggestions last week about home education and really feel that is my best options only key worker says to wait and see what she can do first i just feel terrible for making him do this when hes so desperatly unhappy.