at the end of my teather

[frankiebuns]

M ds is 3.5 he's highly intelligent but he is now refusing to talk to the adults at his pre school its not that fact he hates it he is desperate to go every day beating me to the door we have to have a routine going on the bus to school if we go by car its melt down, he knows its wrong to not talk and is how having accidents at school which is getting silly, I asked why he won't speak he just replys I'm mot that's that if I make a issue of it it gets worse, we have tried ignoring it but he thinks he's won, bribary that went down like a lead balloon, reasoning not happening. He will speak to the children although there is one there that is playing up and is always in trouble, my son hates people being naughty has to do the right thing he is obbsessed with holiday camps and every night we have to pretend we are on holiday and have to see the show, we went o paedtratcian months ago told he wasn't autistic but I'm sure its something. My mum says he has idiosycrasis and quirks but I'm in the mind set its more, ever since 18 months he will only ezt mushed food and loves to tip things on the floor he doesn't want ie drink food etc! Help!

thakyou so much, im not sure whats wrong but hes so different to his peers, he has jhs (joint hyper mobility syndrome) reacts to pain like it was nothing, he did a back flip off a stool and banged his head and hurt his arm he got up carried on, but he fell over a frew days ago and skided on gravel and he was so upset for hours afterwrds over a tiny grze on his hand no bigger than a pin head, he is clumsy although dad has dyspraxia he trips easily, he doesnt look where hes going he looks behind him and is a nightmare im scared to let him run as it will result in a mjor accident and i cant handle what happens, hes a daddys boy but as im off wrok at the mo he has loved me being home, he is a parrott wont actually say i love you etc i have to say it first to get a response he is very cuddly and getys worried if any bodys ill, he hates the drs pretneds to go to sleep if we have an appointment, but he is very loud and extrovert at home but at school hes a different child. the food thing has always been a problem he was fine at 18 months but then boom it went down hill he had a sore throat and tonsilitis at about 20 months then his eating never really came back, he will eat oddities quavers pom bears cherrios abut everything else has to be fork mashed, otherwise he will eat anything but if you give him a piece of food he freaks, he loves cooking with me and by this i have got him to try chocolate milk etc, he knows the ingredients off by heart and measurments and will be very pleased if you try some but he says he likes cake so i say do u want some and he says no i dnt lke it, he tryed cake at a year old and he did seem to like it, things are too loud for him like if we go on holiday he will cover his ears in the club house but by second day hes ok, he has stopped bbeing invited to birthday partys as he refuses to eat with the other children and this is becoming an issue he wants to go an play and not sit down with the rest, he cant understand why he doesnt win the pass the parcel games each time and dnt even go there with number 2s t was hard enough training him to do wees he now mides in the corner and does a number 2 in pants then i have to pooper scooper it out i have tried explaining, reasoning etc but his reaction is tears and not going for several days which makes situation worse. we are seeing hv next week whilst he is a t pre schiool because if you talk infront of him he picks up theres a problem and goes nuts, the paeds said he didnt have a problem he was functioning at a 7 year old level at the age of 2 1/2 but other than that nohting. im just at my wits end and making it worse is th fact that i feel i can never get my son potty trained to a satisfactory level for school the school i want him to go to wont accept him until he is. if i use that reasoning with my son he will be glad not to go adn keep doing it
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yes and his intelligence, i thought of sensory processing disorder and only a few days ago i wrote the list of what they say on the website and he ticked 90% of the boxes! i did think of aspergers and to me hes got it but no one can give a clear answer, we have been told to monitor his jhs and he gets seen every year at the hospital, he aslo has scoliosis (sp) but only mildly. my dh mum works with autistic children and has been very helpful to turn to for ideas etc in her eyes he isnt but in my eyes hes so different it hurts. hes an amazing lil lad and only has one friend at school and they stick together like glue! which is great but the days hes off sick or something happens its a nightmare. he asks me questions why is the sky blue and wont accept the answer because it is or anything silly he needsa to knwo the propper answer! ever tried explainging how a combustion engine works or a plane flys in the air to a 3.5 year old, we bought the farmers weekly one day and we were sat on a bench in town and my ds wanted to know what each tractor etc was called not just a john deere or massy furuson but a dh346 back loader etc and the guy next to us thought i was nuts or training him for mensa, he gets cross easily ie if i ask him to write a card or do kisses he gets frustrated and crumpls up the card and says done his drawing is finally geting there my mum had new carpets down a few weeks ago and he took a shine to the carpet fitter and he went in the sitting room and drew the most amazing van with wheels and a yellow stripe down the side just like the real one and gave it proudly to the man, he also gets very excited when my mums plumber friend round and will help him change a tap or hand him his tools from the tool box gary will ask him for a specific tool and he will get it with no hsitation its like hes 15 ina 3 year olds body. im also pregnatn and trying to explain this to my son was hard but i think he thinks shes going to coe out as big as him and be able to play from day one! its a roller coaster and im dreading having dc2 just incase she is the same but if she isnt it will only hihg light the differences in him!

havent seen the out of sync child but my mum was on about a book about something about the dog in the night? curious something and the dog in the night

Yep that's it! Thankyou