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Sports day disaster

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PrinceRogersNelson · 03/07/2014 10:38

DD's first sports day. Thought I'd take some time off work to cheer her on and give her support.

As soon as she saw me I knew I shouldn't have come. She starts crying. TA trying to help her. She does the first event quite well. Cries again. I take her to the side. She will not stop crying, wants to go home. So I am now stood at the side of the field with a screaming, crying child who will not join in.
She calms down enough to try the sack race. She can't jump. She falls to the ground screaming. I take her again. Holding back the tears myself now.

Teacher comes over. I say that she really cant stay here for 2 hours crying. I am now in tears. He asks if she's like this because I'm here? Probably yes. So I leave the field and come home, me crying, DD crying.

Anyone beat that for a disastrous school event?

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PrinceRogersNelson · 03/07/2014 13:49

Thanks Polter. A friend has sent me a couple of photo's and it would seem that she was fine after I left. I have called school to ask how she was but they haven't called back.

I think it was me being there that just completely confused her and she couldn't cope with it at all.

Just feel quite humiliated.

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PolterGoose · 03/07/2014 14:09

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PrinceRogersNelson · 03/07/2014 14:16

Me too. Such a shame when these things happen. Onwards and upwards.

Is it common to get upset when 'home' mixes with 'school''?

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bialystockandbloom · 03/07/2014 14:23

My ds finds it hard to cope if there's a school event which I come to, but he can't come home with me when it ends. Sports day was fine as it ended just about normal time so we could take them home, but we had some 'family lunch' day this week (parents, GPs etc could go in to have lunch with their dc), and he was really really upset when he couldn't come back with me though I suspect that had more to do with him just having to stay at school

But I think you're right, home/school blurring can throw things awry, as well as disruption to normal routine. Also not always helped by how school handles it.

Glad she's ok now

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ouryve · 03/07/2014 14:28

That's one of those things where the difference in your child really hits hard :(

I've never attended a sports day. Apart from the fact that DS1's never wanted anything to do with it, he's never liked me in school during school hours. DS2 tries to push me back out of the door if he sees me there and it's not home time, too.

lougle · 03/07/2014 15:07

DD1 is 8.6 now and she still can't cope with us going to events unless she can come home with us afterwards.

She can cope with me being in the school for a different reason (e.g. interviewing potential staff, or meeting with the HT) now, but only in the last year. I used to have to hide in cupboards if she walked nearby.

bialystockandbloom · 03/07/2014 15:14

Mine is more bothered by the imposition of school on home (ie homework)

Funny that polter

yazzy85 · 12/07/2014 00:59

ah feel like I could have written the original post! my 3 year old had his first sports day, we lasted a total of 5 minutes with screaming crying and I wasin tears by the way he was behaving..don't know guess it must be the change that throws them off

hazeyjane · 12/07/2014 07:04

Our disastrous sports day was me taking ds to the wrong park (opposite end of town), and ds falling asleep before we could even get there!

troutsprout · 12/07/2014 09:12

If I could go back... I would take ds out of every primary sports day he ever did.
Can you imagine if you were awful at say maths and didn't understand the rules of maths at all ? Then someone decided to have a day where you had to perform maths in public and you were cheered or awwed at by a lined up audience and everybody else's mum and dad came and watched you as well?
Public humiliation/ Hell on earth

MooMummyMoo · 12/07/2014 09:24

Never thought of it like that. That is a very good point troutsprout!

TigerLightBurning · 12/07/2014 09:43

DS had his first school sports day and they had prepared him well so he knew exactly what he had to do and to much surprise and relief it went really well. However a couple of years back for his nursery one a completely different story. He would not join in the races but he enjoyed looking at the numbers on on track.

Ineedmorepatience · 13/07/2014 09:30

Dd3 has only done 2 sports days years ago. The upset and humiliation was not something I was going to put her through again

She generally copes well with us going into school but I find it really hard when she is clearly struggling, I can see it in her eyes but no one else can, it breaks me to walk away and leave her there

theDudesmummy · 13/07/2014 16:34

I'm quite relieved that we have an ABA workshop with our consultant on our sports day next week, so I have a good reason why DS can't go!

signandsingcarols · 13/07/2014 19:37

PRN, another one here who could have written that original post...ds is now at the end of yr 2 (3 sports days later on) and for the first time managed me there, same for the assembly, only just managed it this last time, and I still can't go in for activies in school,(yet) the mix is just too much for him to get his head round...

Think what I am trying to say is it might be a developmental thing and improve in future years...

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