Worried about DS, dyspraxia, dyslexia or SPD, advise please, please

[chimphead]

Hi. I have had for many years concerns about DS age 6 Y1. He has difficulty relating to other children, non risk taker, still wets himself day and night. Extremely fussy eater. He resistant to change and has excuse for everything, hates homework and needs pushing to do anything, a bit anxious and prone to break downs hitting etc. He is very good at school however.
Anyway I am worried about him not achieving what he is capable of, as he wont try anything new so he wont fail. His handwriting is bad and so are his motor skills. (cant climb climbing frames and only jumped two footed last year).
Have posted examples of handwritng in primary education although it may be better here as I am trying to gage if it is normal boyish traits or there is more going on
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/primary/2119538-Should-I-have-concerns-for-DS1-writing-handwrithing-and-generall-progess

I have approached school and although they have taken on my concerns they dont seem to be worried about his general progress.

Has anyone any ideas, am I worrying over nothing.
I am also dyslexic and have sensory issues possibly APD.

Thanks for reading

Hi! It is difficult to know without knowing your son. Considering that you have some processing difficulties yourself, I can see why you would see your son's behaviour under that light. I think what is important to determine is whether your son's needs/nature at home are getting in the way of him or you/your family enjoying a normal life, does his behaviour prevents you to do family activities such as trip out shopping, enjoying a holiday and a day out, do you find yourself accommodating for him a lot in everyday life, does he show any sign of unhappiness/anxiety, do you feel that you need to get help to help him…..? If the answer is yes then you could seek help and see a paediatrician who could assess him and see whether he too has processing issues. Hope this helps.

Hi, Thanks for your reply. I waver between thinking he needs help to thinking he will get there in the end. School say they will get someone in to do observations when he is in year 2. Not sure who. He is seeing the doctor about wetting. Dr said would need school input before she would refer to paediatrician. He was also born prem and has met most milestones late. I can take him out most places, enjoys museums days out ect. Its normally getting out that is the problem. I tend to just do it. If I tell him what we doing he will refuse. I will have to see what this year report says I suppose.
Any idea about who does observations, it said something like communications and behavioural but forget the rest. Sometimes I struggle to take things in and remember when talking to people.
Thanks

Sensory and Communication support team perhaps?

Thankyou. PolterThose factfiles are great. Will read through them. I ahve a list of my concerns that I took to school. Will compare. Do I need to take a report from school to GP or can I ask for referal without waiting, as school said it will be next september perhaps later. GP told me she need to hear from school so bit confused. Thanks

It could be that Tamaboy. I get very stressed in meetings. I need to aply some of the factfiles recommenations to myself. Thanks

Maybe a family member or a friend you trust could attend the meetings with you and take notes. That would take the pressure off you missing information. Don't be afraid of asking for clarification if there is something you haven't quite understood , I do and I find people are generally very helpful when asked to explain something. Maybe use your phone to record meeting and transcribe it afterwards, but I must admit I don't even know if that's possible.

Maybe you could write down some notes beforehand and take them along to the meetings and appointments so you don't forget anything.

Write down in your diary who you spoke to, key points of the meeting or conversation, follow up phone calls you need to make etc

Good luck with the referral.